The first thing that separates the protagonist's mother from her Chinese identity is the very fact that "she turned to Jesus." It is insinuated in the short story that the mother converted to Christianity once her husband left her, that is, following her arrival to Canada. She is a devout Christian, not only saying grace before meals, but rendering those around her uncomfortable when she does:
"And forgive those who have turned their backs to you, Lord," my mother was saying. "Please let them find the way. Amen."
"Amen," I said when she opened her eyes and glared at me. "Amen," murmured my aunt and uncles, who were not sure what to say. Poh Poh picked up the pot of soup, and Yeh Yeh continued looking at the rice. My cousins kept giggling.
The mother's Christian values alienate her from her family not only through her actions (like saying grace) but also through her beliefs, such as her belief that Shun-Wai's are inappropriate. "When my mother saw the Shun-Wai, she tried to take it apart in the name of Christianity."