Speaking Different Language Summary

In their article “Speaking Different Languages” by John Grey and ‘sex, Lies, and Conversation: Why Is It Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?” by Deborah Tannen explains how men and women should make an effort to understand each other’s expectations when it comes to communication. Because they interpret language differently, they have different body language, and they solve problems differently. First, men and women need to understand each other’s expectation. Without communication they wouldn’t know each other’s feelings. For example. “I feel as though you don’t fully understand what I really mean to say or care about how I feel” (Grey 336) Men and women have different languages and they don’t understand each other. “Because many men don’t understand that women express feelings differently, they inappropriately judge or invalidate their partner’s feelings. This leads to arguments. (Grey 336) That is an example on why men need to communicate more because the take women’s feelings another way and they start thinking inappropriate things. For example, when women say “We never go out” men respond back as
Because of misunderstanding each other is causing arguments. In the article it says, “But men process information very differently. (Grey 340) Due to the fact that men and women have different ways of speaking and receiving information from each other is what making problems between them. For example when a women says “We never go out” and the men respond back by saying “That’s not true. We went out last week” a women's action on speaking can mislead the way mens take that. I think women should understand men’s actions towards women. For example in the article it says, “Women need to understand that when he is silent, he is saying “I don’t know what to say yet, but I am thinking about it” Women over react and think when men are silent they are ignoring them or don’t care on what she is