Summary Of Christon Gray's Song 'The Last Time'

Introduction
Recording artist Christon Gray sang in his song The Last Time, “When’s the last time you said I’m sorry? When’s the last time you said I love you? Do you mean it when you say I’m sorry? Or was the last time, the last time?” It does not take a rocket scientist to come to the conclusion that marriage and parenting are difficult. In order for any marriage to work, there must be a process of continual forgiveness and repentance. Mr. Gray is on to something. One cannot simply coast by in marriage and parenting without grounding their actions in a love that constantly manifest itself through sincere “I’m sorrys” and subsequent “I love yous.” At the heart of Ken Sande and Tom Raabe’s work is an in depth exposition of guidelines
The first step Sande introduces is confession. Sande presents his Seven A’s of confession that are necessary for reconciliation. Then, Sande moves to instruction on how to engage in the process of confrontation. Here, Sande exhorts readers to be gracious with their speech, always seeking to build up other with the tongue and not tear down. He also exhorts readers to actively listen and minister to one another with the gospel. Afterwards, the process of forgiveness is detailed, as the reader is exposed to the notion of four promises that should be made when seeking forgiveness and granting forgiveness, summarized in the expression “Good thought, hurt you not, gossip never, friends forever” (85). For Sande, forgiveness is paramount in the process of peacemaking, as he argues that “because Christians are the most forgiven people in the world, we should be the most forgiving people in the world as well” (83). Finally, Sande shores up his peacemaking process by discussing the art of negotiation, walking the reader through the PAUSE method to enable and empower husbands and wives to fight well and reach solutions that are beneficial for all parties