Being proactive means that before each stimulus of the environment have the ability to decide the answer we want to, this means that we are not slaves of the actions that are performed on us, but free executors of our behavior.
A practical example in our life is a driver of a car yells an obscenity or touches us with insistence the whistle of the car. In this case our response can vary from taking a gun and shoot and then suffer the legal consequences of our behavior to simply ignore it and not let it disturb our tranquility. The important thing is that the decision is ours, that we are responsible for our behavior.
Second habit: Begin with the end in mind.
This habit is not that our conduct should govern the whim or chance, we have defined objectives to which approach: A college degree, buy a house or a car, maintain a harmonious relationship with our family and coworkers. Every time we make an important decision we have to decide if it brings us closer or distance us from our goals.
Third Habit: Set first things first
Is to distribute our time on the basis of priorities: The author describes a method of organizing time based on four quadrants in which placed the activities: urgent, not urgent, important and unimportant.
Fourth Habit: Think Win-Win.
This habit indicates that our interactions with other human beings should always be of mutual benefit, there is no other option. Our relationship with a client must be a win-win if I win and my client loses, I lose the client. There is no other option, although other types of short term relationships result in immediate gains in the long term we see that they are ineffective and harmful to both parties. The author explains that if, after reasoning with our partner we can not win-win agreement, we have the option of "no deal."
Fifth Habit: Seek first to understand then to be understood.
This habit is placed first on the place of another, to see things from their point of view.