The Battle of the Sexes

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Program Title

Battle of the Sexes
Program Description

2 Hosts: TBD by panel
4-8 Audience Liaisons:
SBW:
Alphas:
2 Door Managers:
SBW:
Additional Members to serve as Ushers/ Secret Shoppers :)
Program Managers:
Me, Lauren M.
You,
Article Support: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/patricia-vanderbilt/the-hookup-generation_b_1304953.html http://pandodaily.com/2013/08/20/sex-love-and-the-hook-up-generation/ http://www.nerve.com/love-sex/10-reasons-why-hookup-culture-isn%E2%80%99t-leaving-a-generation-unhappy-and-unfulfilled http://www.cnn.com/2013/05/16/health/kerner-hookup-culture/ http://www.apa.org/monitor/2013/02/ce-corner.aspx http://lisawadedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/heldman-wade-2010-hook-up-culture-setting-a-new-research-agenda.pdf http://healthland.time.com/2013/08/13/the-truth-about-college-hookups/ http://shell.newpaltz.edu/jsec/articles/volume4/issue1/worthfisherfinal.pdf
Date, Time, Location

Monday, November 18th at 7:30-9:30pm (7pm-10pm)
Location: 147 Communication Arts Building
Room Set-up: 6:45pm
SMART Goal: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-bound
Include:
Target population(s)
- MSU Students between the ages of 17-24
Expected Attendance
- 20+
Purpose of event:
- To bring information as it relates to MSU community in an innovative way.
- We hope to provide facts and insight to this specific
Program Layout:
Welcome
Introduce Host/
Lauren and Keyon?
Introduce Program
Rules of Engagement Being Program -
Trivial Pursuit (1 to 100)
What is Self worth
The sense of one's own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect.
What is Casual Sex
Sexual relations not involving a love relationship, esp. brief encounters or an encounter on one occasion
Marriage Statistics
Couple Statistics
Casual Sex
Protect your self at all times
Know who you’re messing with
Identifying your role
Is it a shared perspective
Social impact...society says, so it is…
What are the circumstances if any under which it is acceptable to establish a relationship with a person who was involved with a friend?
Someone is always more involved than another
Self Worth
Is it affected by casual sex
Value of intimate relationships and placement in life
Can it be distracting to your priorities as Student
Your reputation precedes you
Hoe Fax
How are you affected when you get that question… You know we’re just having sex right?
Questions/Answers you DON'T want to hear
What question/answer have you gotten from someone you were sexually involved with that gave you that pit in your stomach or made you reevaluate your morals to better fit the situation?
Adding to Your Past Box
This world isn't but sooo big
The level of consciousness used to evaluate/interpret your past will determine your perception of what lies before you in your present/future.
Stop Looking and work on you
Abstinence is still the best policy
Everything that looks good isn't good

Freebies: Olin Health Packs, Ingham health clinic,
Winners Prize?: Magnums, Condoms, Candy/Cookies,

Engagement/Co-Sponsors
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Project Tasks & Responsibilities

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Date (When)
Task (What)
Notes
Lead (Who)
11/5
Planning Meeting Done

11/3
Get flyer drafted
Done

11/4
Get Flyer Approved
Done

11/5-11/17
Distribute flyers

11/14
Planning Meeting

11/15-11/17
Make Evaluation Forms

Budget

FINAL APPROVALS
Lauren Moore
Keyon Clinton

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Successful Black Women of MSU in collaboration with Alpha Phi Alpha presents
SBW’s 5th Annual PILLOW TALK
Theme: Casual Sex vs. Self Worth

Welcome
Introduce Hosts
Whitney and ???
Introduce Program
This year’s event will focus on what is known as the Hook-up Culture and its effect or lack there of on our self- worth. Upon completion of this program we want all in attendance to leave with the understanding that no matter your view on the topic you should make conscious decisions before engaging in any type of relationship, sexual or otherwise. Remember there are always consequences to your actions and it is up to you use your intellect as adult to avoid those. Though a situation maybe fun in that moment the after effects emotional or otherwise can leave one with much to be desired. Don't just claim to be an adult act like one. And dont be afraid to ask whomever you are engaging with questions.
Rules of Engagement
Be Respectful & Courteous of all opinions and point of views
Keep comments brief (i.e 30-90 seconds) and intelligent
Listen to understand
One speaker at a time
Be positive, non-judgmental and open to new ideas
Everything happens through conversation
Treat everything you hear as an opportunity to learn and grow
Participate 100%
Have fun! Being Program -
Trivial Pursuit Questions and Answers:
JUST - Trivia Questions:
What is Self-esteem/Self-Wroth?
What is Casual Sex?
What is Hooking Up?
During what time did hooking up become more common?
What feelings are most associated with hooking up?
What generation is known as the “Hook-up generation”?
How do you feel about the double standards associated with “casual” sex?
If you had a friend engaging in casual sex, do you judge them?
What is Self worth
The sense of one's own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect.
Brief uncommitted sexual encounters between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other
What is Casual Sex
Sexual relations not involving a love relationship, esp. brief encounters or an encounter on one occasion
A distinction is usually made between non-intimate and intimate relationships, which involve a higher degree of physical and emotional intimacy between two people. Physical intimacy is characterized by loving gestures and sexual activity, whereas emotional intimacy results from sharing thoughts, experiences, and goals. (Source: American Psychological Association)
Marriage Statistics
We've been hearing for years that fewer and fewer people are tying the knot, and a new study reveals just how much the marriage rate has declined in the last century. A new report released Thursday by Bowling Green State University's National Center for Marriage and Family Research found that the U.S. marriage rate is 31.1, or 31 marriages per 1,000 unmarried women. That means for every 1,000 unmarried women in the U.S., 31 of those previously single women tied the knot in the last year. For comparison, in 1920, the national marriage rate was 92.3.
The rate of satisfaction in marriage is higher for husbands and wives when both regularly maintain religious attendance and feel that God is the center of their marriage. (Source: The State of Our Unions 2011, 31, 33)
Couple Statistics
During the early twentieth century, dating evolved out of a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under the watch of a chaperone. By the 1960s and 1970s, “hooking up” increasingly replaced dating, mainly because the age at which people marry for the first time had begun creeping up. (Source: facts.randomhistory.com)
What is Hooking Up?
“hooking up” could mean anything from kissing to intercourse.
Despite the ambiguity of the term "hookup," 84 percent of students reported that they had discussed theirs with friends in the previous four months. Over 50 percent reported at least one and a third reported at least two hookups during the school year, indicating that these liaisons -- however the students defined them -- were common.
During what time did hooking up become more common?
Hookups began to become more frequent in the 1920s, with the upsurge of automobiles and novel entertainment, such as movie theaters. Instead of courting at home under a parent's watchful eye, young adults left the home and were able to explore their sexuality more freely.
What feelings are most associated with hooking up?
557 male and female students who responded to a question asking how they felt the morning after a hookup, 41% of those expressed sadness, regret and ambivalence. So, 59% feels otherwise.
What generation is known as the “Hook-up generation”?
OURS-20-something/college age kids
How do you feel about the double standards associated with “casual” sex?
If you had a friend engaging in casual sex, do you judge them?
Casual Sex
Protect your self at all times
Know who you’re messing with
Identifying your role
What do I want from this “relationship”?
Is it a shared perspective?
Do we both know where we are in the relationship?
Social impact...society says, so it is…
What are the circumstances if any under which it is acceptable to establish a relationship with a person who was involved with a friend?
Someone is always more involved than another
Self Worth
Is it affected by casual sex?
Value of intimate relationships and placement in life
Can it be distracting to your priorities as student?
A number of studies have looked at regret with respect to hookups and have documented the negative feelings men and women may feel after casual sex. In a large Web-based study of 1,468 undergraduate students, participants reported a variety of consequences: 27.1 percent felt embarrassed, 24.7 percent reported emotional difficulties, 20.8 percent experienced loss of respect, and 10 percent reported difficulties with a steady partner (Lewis et al., 2011). In another recent study conducted on a sample of 200 undergraduate students in Canada, 78 percent of women and 72 percent of men who had uncommitted sex (including vaginal, anal, and/or oral sex) reported a history of experiencing regret following such an encounter. (Source
Can it change your perception of yourself?
In a study of 832 college students, 26 percent of women and 50 percent of men reported feeling positive after a hookup, and 49 percent of women and 26 percent of men reported a negative reaction (the remainders for each sex had a mix of both positive and negative reactions; Owen et al., 2010). (Source: APA)
Your reputation precedes you
Hoe Fax
How are you affected when you get that question… You know we’re just having sex right?
Questions/Answers you DON’T want to hear
What question/answer have you gotten from someone you were sexually involved with that gave you that pit in your stomach or made you reevaluate your morals to better fit the situation?
Adding to Your Past Box
This world isn't but sooo big
You never know who someone knows
The level of consciousness used to evaluate/interpret your past will determine your perception of what lies before you in your present/future.
Stop Looking and work on you
Understand who you are
Know what you stand for
Abstinence is still the best policy
Everything that looks good isn't good