A parent’s love for a child is quite like no other. Because of this, parents often push their children toward the “best” opportunities, and expect the child to meet their desires. However, if the path the son or daughter might have chosen did not fall into the set category of their parents, there often becomes tension and disapproval. At times, the high expectations parents hold for their children are set in stone, and parents cease to acknowledge what the reality actually is. Kitty’s reality is that she is twenty six, in love with a woman, and lacks a “successful” job. Kitty’s mother takes no notice of what is real, and continues with her questions about how Kitty’s life should be. “You’re twenty six and not getting younger/ it’s about time you got a decent job…what are you doing with your life?/ why don’t you study computer programming? (19-22). Not only is Kitty’s mom disapproving of her love for another woman, but also mocks Kitty’s career choice. Not once does the question of what makes Kitty happy come up, it is only what the mother thinks is best for Kitty. The expectations of Kitty’s mother have only created a larger gap in their relationship, and developed neglect and hopelessness among Kitty. Instead of talking through these important matters, Kitty’s mom’s criticism of Kitty’s life overpowers any chance for approval, leaving her feeling…
Erin Zammett Ruddy wrote the article “The New Laid-Back Parenting” where she identifies whether a parent can exercise laid-back parenting efficiently in a hover-parenting culture and not take it to the extent of neglect. Practicing laid-back parenting has its challenges where it is tempting for the parent to snap back into an overly involved mode. Some people who do not practice the laid-back parenting method may frown upon it. The author presents an interesting perspective on how the use of a less hovering approach to parenting allows a child to be independent, confident and resourceful individuals in the future.…
My mother would always weep to hear the voice of a young man ,who has taken care of himself and his little sister. My father was more than proud of the person who I was becoming, and in that moment I realized these certain changes that were occurring through my life. Numerous of flashbacks of when I had to walk from school holding my young sister's tiny hand, or when I had to bring errands such as vegetables or tortillas for dinner, all the responsibilities I was given everyday to complete, it was to help me become the person I am today. I have seen young people nowadays, and it’s hard to watch them mistreat their parents and not give them the proper love and respect they really…
In this essay, Keeping Close to Home, the author, Gloria Watkins, tries to look back at her growing path to find out what influences her values and identity. Most of the sources are conflicting. The first paradox came from her experience attending college in the city. For a girl growing up in a small town, this kept her a far distance, both mental and physical, from her home as a result of moving away from her family. The most direct impact on her is her parent’s ambivalence toward college education. Although they supported her educational endeavors, they were skeptical and confusing about what college education might do to their child, just like what most parents of working-class folks will worry about. This kid of contradictory emotion made her feel confused.…
Obviously, there is demise in the relationship between the parents, but the relationships directly with the children are now critical and must be recognized and supported. Additional apparent stresses upon such relationships are economic, concerns of loyalty, parental conflict, and the previous level of nurturance prior to divorce. Children often feel they are caught in the middle of their parent’s conflict (Gilman, Schneider & Shulak, 2005). Children living with parents who seek to contain and/or resolve their conflicts, will fare much better over the course of time than children who live in the midst of parental conflict( Gilman, Schneider & Shulak, 2005). At the same time, children who continue a warm and loving relationship with parents and feel that their parents understand their experience will also fare better than children who have a less nurturing relationship with their parents (Gilman, Schneider & Shulak,…
Going to college is an exiting time for students and their parents. However, it may also seem a bit...…
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I’m told it’s one of those instances you never forget, that second when you realize you’re on your own. But for me, it’s not there – perhaps because, when you’re the first in your family to go to college you never truly feel like they let you go.” This is a truly relevant statement of a generation that never really separated from their families because of our accessibility to social media. Whether it’s in our thoughts and behaviors, or in the way that we communicate through various social outlets (Facebook, Skype, Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram) students are never truly on their…
Gradually, I grow up. I leave home further and further to study on my own. From the very beginning of 20-minute’s walk to 8-hour’s train trip, and now 3-hour’s air journey, no matter where I am, the sentence “Honey, I love you”, always lingered beside my ear. Perhaps I am just like a kite, with an invisible string holding in my mother’s hand, never being able to be cut apart or unwound. However high I may soar, I’m always in the eyes of my mother and being concerned. Her silent love is the most beautiful voice in the…
As I gathered all my information from the college moms and the participant observation, I noticed that none of the student moms does it by themselves. They have someone there that will motivate and support them. Even if that person is not near them, they can still influence the college moms. For instance, SL’s parents still demonstrate their support even though her parents are all the way in Maine. SL said that one of the outside forces that helped her decide to continue her education was her parents being proud of her. The student moms do need many help with continuing their education because they need someone to watch the children while they are in class or if they have an exam outside of class time. Hence, the University of Georgia and other…
Every individual enters adulthood at his or her own pace and at different ages. One key of the five defining moments of adulthood happens to be parenthood. In the past entering parenthood upon entering adulthood was seen as normal. Women would stay home to care for children and men provided financially for families. Nowadays, many individuals are delaying parenthood opting instead to further education, pursue a career, purchase a home or automobile, and taking more time to become better acquainted with a potential spouse. Some people believe cohabiting prior to marriage will improve his or her chances of a successful marriage. Women in today’s society are becoming further educated and establishing careers before entering parenthood. Thus, these women choose to juggle careers and parenthood unlike women in the early 1900s (University of Phoenix, 2002). By postponing parenthood many young adults have the opportunity to transition into adulthood as better adjusted individuals. Individuals who enter adulthood…
This eBook describes the lack of connection that children feel from their parents and the origins of that disconnection. This piece also informs the reader of the change in the roles as the child reaches the ages of adolescence; whereas, before, the child would compete against the outside distractions for attention from their…
Meanwhile, my father’s generation experienced dramatic shifts in educational, economic and social opportunities. First, this generation was actively involved in promoting equal rights among races and genders, but they did not fully realize the goals of their youth. Second, this generation was faced with the challenge of raising their children and at the same time caring for their children and aging parents. In fact, parents of my father’s generation were the primary caretakers for their children and aging parents. However, in my father’s generation compared with previous generations, more young adults pursued higher education or relocated away from family to pursue career and educational interests. For example, my father and some of his peers immigrated to United States to pursue a better opportunities for their family. Also, this action represented challenges and…
Letting Go and Holding On Oh how I love life, walking outside in spring and summer and smelling the honeysuckle floating on the warm breeze. Couples walking hand in hand, smiles of happiness from being in love…