The Importance Of Being In An Abusive Relationship

Most people do not realise they are in an abusive relationship until it is too late. Abusive partners do not show their true intentions at the beginning of the relationship; they will show affection and push their partner into committing to the relationship very quickly. Abuse can come in different forms not just physical, mental and finical abuse can be used. The abuser can be blatant with the abuse and not hide it or they could hide the abuse and make their partner question their own sanity and judgment.
Most women stay in abusive relationships as they think it is normal to be abused by their partner during their relationship. They may have grown up in a family environment where abuse was a common occurrence and just accepted it as normal
The abusive partner continuously putting down their partner with derogatory statements and the woman starting to believe the comments which lowers their selfesteem and beginning to believe the abuse is their own fault. The fact that the woman loves her partner even though she is being abused in the relationship, the woman will think she can change her partner and be able to stop the abuse.
Depending on the religion/culture can also stop someone leaving an abusive relationship, the shame it could bring on the family if a relationship ends keeps people in an abusive relationship.
The thought of not being believed if the abused person talks to someone. Especially if the abuser is well known or respected in the area. They could feel guilty about breaking the family up if there are children involved. If the abuse involves violence they may think if they leave the children alone with the ex-partner just in case they are abused. Ultimately the abuser could prevent their partner from revealing the abusive relationship by preventing them from seeing or speaking to family and friends and controlling their money. They could also use intimidation to prevent them from revealing
If you feel that you r abuser will try and find you once you have left you can take a restraining order out the abuser. Get evidence of any bruises, cuts or burns from physical abuse any other evidence you can to prove that you were being abused; this will help obtaining the restraining order. The abuser will know that you are at a vulnerable time and try and tempt you back into the relationship by being romantic and apologising and saying they will change.
The victim will need to give themselves plenty of time to recover and come to terms with what they have been through. The support system of Multi-Agency Safegaurding Hub (MASH) can assist with recommending a therapist to deal with the Post-Traumatic Disorder or depression and Mental
Health Team to administer medication if needed; this could be needed for the children also if they have witnessed the abuse of their parent. Utilising support group’s that enable the victim to talk with other people that have been through the same situation. Allow time to rebuild self-confidence and self-esteem and not rush back into a relationship as they could fall back into an abusive