Toda Today: Different Views On Negotiation

When I was little there were times when my parents negotiated with me involving punishments behind my actions. When I asked "why?" more than one time then I would be slapped. My parent’s responses to my response are mostly "because I said so." Most of the time I would talk back to my mother and just keep asking "why?" or say "this isn’t fair." When I say that I would always think to myself how unfair life can really be and that life isn’t always fair. While I am talking back to my mother or keep asking the say question then my father would walk in and tell me to do it or respect my mother. When my father tells me I would do it because I am afraid of him when I was little. Most of the time if I see my father coming I would run away and go do what my mother do me to do. If my father catches me after he walks away to go get his belt or reach across the table to give me a quick slap across the mouth. I would be trying to not cry and hold back the tears while hiding my head under my arms and the negotiation would be complete.
Today has a different view on negotiations.
Parenting skills aren’t has harsh anymore or how they use to be. They aren’t that controlling or learnable by how well parents help or guide their child’s into becoming a well-rounded person to prepare them for the big world. Also, to teach those to be respect to their elders and teachers. It will make them to have a great working ethics when they get older. My parent also made me get to a job so I can have good work ethic and use to working for others and the world. The goal of the negotiation is to have a long-term value for their child’s ethics and productive behaviors, which means teaching and learning from mistakes you
make.
I have disobeyed my parents like not listen to them, talking back to them, and breaking and losing things. All of the chances that I have had are mostly punishment that isn’t really used on me that moment because my parents and I would talk about what I have did and what I can do differently. After all the talking then I would be punished with what they think is right for what I did. During, my whole childhood I have been punishment for my actions, now I think before the actions I take or before I talk.
My parents will push me to make grades and would slap me for every low grade I had. They would make me be organized and have my papers in certain places in my binders. Through my childhood with my parents doing all this punishments to me made me become a hard working and organized student in school and the world today. I will not stop what I am doing until I am through with what I am doing which is other thing my parent made me do when I was little like they would make me finish what I started until I was done. So, I became an organizing person who works hard in school to keep my grade in the A or B area. When it is the weekend and I am out hanging I can’t stop thinking about all the homework I have that weekend because I have been pushed so hard I like to have all my homework and work behind me so I don’t have to think about them.
As a young child, going through school, my parents always helping and pushing me in my school work. Which my parent have done my whole life. This made me who I am today. It shaped the way I look at school and how I do my work. I look at it as a life lesson; you have to work hard if you want something. I work hard in school and at work so I can get into a great college and so I can have a great future and work ethics. I want to be successful when I get out of college and have a great education.