Spouses cross all boundaries on a regular basis. Most partners are so insensitive to the feelings of one another that their actions have become heartless. Present relationships do not survive solely on infidelity and lies alone. The trust between partners is tested to extreme levels. Truth is lost because men and women are only thinking about their on selfish needs and desires. Casting shadows and disrespect are the new norm in marriage now. No one seems to care how these traits will affect the marriage and all that are involved. Marriage is an experience of knowing what to expect and dealing with the unexpected; learning from the experiences. Being in love now is considered to be humorous. Devoting one's self to just one person is no longer a prime factor in marriage. Courtship has gone from getting to know one another to scoring points on sex card. A never ending race to see who gets the reward of taking the undergarments of the person that is merely being lusted after. Knowing that the person you're so deeply in love with, the one you sincerely meant to stick with through the joys and hardships of life (Gottman). Most relationships usually end in divorce. Second time marriages are at a higher risk of failure of more than sixty percent. The statistics are depressing and stressful especially if the marriage is in danger of …show more content…
As each behavior becomes more visible, the couple becomes more focused on the negative and tension in their marriage. Eventually they become deaf to each other and the potential of having peace is no longer possible. Criticism involves attacking a person's personality or character than a certain behavior. Criticizing usually pushes a person in defense mode because they feel personally attacked. Blaming a spouse or expressing that they are no longer trustworthy and have betrayed the marriage is the start to the destruction to the