What Are Celeste Headlee's Ten Recommendations?
Respond/reflect on the ten recommendations that the presenter makes.
Celeste Headlee made many good points about how today society do not communicate with each other as often as we should without any conflict. And when we do we are distracted by our phone so we are more comfortable with texting people then having a face to face conversation. The ten recommendations that Celeste Headlee makes on how to have a Good Conversation I believe to be very useful. The first recommendation was don’t multitask because it distracts you from being engaged in the conversation. Multitasking can be great when you are working, however, when you are having a conversation that’s a different story because it can make the person feel as if you are not engaged …show more content…
in the conversation. And I must admit I too am guilty of this because there are many times I’m on the phone with friends and I’m doing something else. The second recommendation was don’t pontificate because it will come across as you are being more interested in stating your opinion than listening to the other person point of view. When having a conversation with other you should enter the conversation assuming that you have something to learn, therefore, you want to listen to the other person point of view even if you don’t agree with them which I believe to be true. The third recommendation was to use open-ended questions such as who, what when where why or how because when you because if you ask a complicated question you are more likely to get a simple answer. I agree with Celeste Headlee because I hate when I ask someone a question and the reply me with a one or two words answers. The fourth recommendation was to go with the flow because if you try too hard you will get lost in your thoughts which will make you stop listening. When I’m talking to my best friend she would often ask me to repeat what she had just said if she notices that I’m distracted and not fully engaged in the conversation. The fifth recommendation was if you don’t know say you don’t know because that will stop you from saying something stupid that will make you look bad. In today society we feel like when having a conversation, we must know everything which is not necessarily true.
The six recommendations were if you are having a conversation with someone don’t equate your thought with theirs because it is not the same and all experiences are individual. So, if you do that you are making the conversation all about you and conversation is not a promotion opportunity. I personally lose interest if I’m trying to have a meaningful conversation with someone and all they made it about themselves. The seven recommendations were tried not to repeat yourself because it can be condescending. The eighth recommendation was to stay out of the “weeds” meaning stay away from mentioning dates because people don’t care. The ninth recommendations were to "listen" because” the average person talks about two hundred words per minute but we can listen up to five hundred words per minute”. I believe listening is an important key to having a good conversation because if you are not listing you wouldn’t be able to respond effectively and understanding the individual in which you are communicating with. The tenth recommendation was “be brief” because “a good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to keep you interested but long enough to cover the subject”. I like the analogy of the skirt that Celeste Headlee
used because it helps me to better understand her concept of being “brief”.
How can you evaluate and assess your own communication skills?
I personally think you can evaluate and assess your own communication skills by being attentive to whoever you are communicating with body language. That way you can evaluate if the individual in which you are communicating with are engaged in the conversation or do they seem bored. Also, are they responding to you using open-ended question instead of one or two words answers? Because this could be an indication whether or not you are a good communicator.
What is your "take away" from this video?
I like this video, I have learned a lot of important information about communication that I never thought I would. I believe this video defines a many of the communications skill that we learned growing up. I agree with everything that Celeste Headlee said, however, one quote that stood out to me was “most of us don’t listen with the intention to understand instead we listen with the intent to reply. Which I believe to be so true because I know that I’m guilty of this. When communicating with people we are often thinking about what to say instead of listening as a result when the person is done talking we do not remember what they have said.
Celeste Headlee made many good points about how today society do not communicate with each other as often as we should without any conflict. And when we do we are distracted by our phone so we are more comfortable with texting people then having a face to face conversation. The ten recommendations that Celeste Headlee makes on how to have a Good Conversation I believe to be very useful. The first recommendation was don’t multitask because it distracts you from being engaged in the conversation. Multitasking can be great when you are working, however, when you are having a conversation that’s a different story because it can make the person feel as if you are not engaged …show more content…
in the conversation. And I must admit I too am guilty of this because there are many times I’m on the phone with friends and I’m doing something else. The second recommendation was don’t pontificate because it will come across as you are being more interested in stating your opinion than listening to the other person point of view. When having a conversation with other you should enter the conversation assuming that you have something to learn, therefore, you want to listen to the other person point of view even if you don’t agree with them which I believe to be true. The third recommendation was to use open-ended questions such as who, what when where why or how because when you because if you ask a complicated question you are more likely to get a simple answer. I agree with Celeste Headlee because I hate when I ask someone a question and the reply me with a one or two words answers. The fourth recommendation was to go with the flow because if you try too hard you will get lost in your thoughts which will make you stop listening. When I’m talking to my best friend she would often ask me to repeat what she had just said if she notices that I’m distracted and not fully engaged in the conversation. The fifth recommendation was if you don’t know say you don’t know because that will stop you from saying something stupid that will make you look bad. In today society we feel like when having a conversation, we must know everything which is not necessarily true.
The six recommendations were if you are having a conversation with someone don’t equate your thought with theirs because it is not the same and all experiences are individual. So, if you do that you are making the conversation all about you and conversation is not a promotion opportunity. I personally lose interest if I’m trying to have a meaningful conversation with someone and all they made it about themselves. The seven recommendations were tried not to repeat yourself because it can be condescending. The eighth recommendation was to stay out of the “weeds” meaning stay away from mentioning dates because people don’t care. The ninth recommendations were to "listen" because” the average person talks about two hundred words per minute but we can listen up to five hundred words per minute”. I believe listening is an important key to having a good conversation because if you are not listing you wouldn’t be able to respond effectively and understanding the individual in which you are communicating with. The tenth recommendation was “be brief” because “a good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to keep you interested but long enough to cover the subject”. I like the analogy of the skirt that Celeste Headlee
used because it helps me to better understand her concept of being “brief”.
How can you evaluate and assess your own communication skills?
I personally think you can evaluate and assess your own communication skills by being attentive to whoever you are communicating with body language. That way you can evaluate if the individual in which you are communicating with are engaged in the conversation or do they seem bored. Also, are they responding to you using open-ended question instead of one or two words answers? Because this could be an indication whether or not you are a good communicator.
What is your "take away" from this video?
I like this video, I have learned a lot of important information about communication that I never thought I would. I believe this video defines a many of the communications skill that we learned growing up. I agree with everything that Celeste Headlee said, however, one quote that stood out to me was “most of us don’t listen with the intention to understand instead we listen with the intent to reply. Which I believe to be so true because I know that I’m guilty of this. When communicating with people we are often thinking about what to say instead of listening as a result when the person is done talking we do not remember what they have said.