When someone took what is yours, it is definitely a major heartbreak. But what happened when the person you married cheated on you behind your back? Yes, it feels as though as if someone stabbed you straight in the heart, taking your most vital organ and left you nothing. Cheating is any situation that has you in a compromising situation with someone other than your own partner (Larry James, November 2005). There are many reasons why people cheat and the reasons are needs are not fulfilled by their partners, partners always demonstrate insecurities and low self esteem, having insecurities towards you partner and ways to overcome are to forgive your partner, learning to trust your partner again, communicate with your partner and break off all contacts with the other man or other woman. Cheating occurs because sometimes needs are not fulfilled by their partners. Most primary needs for a woman are affection, understanding, and respect from their partners while basic needs for a man are attention, acceptance and trust. Both women and men longing for as much attention from their partner. They need to feel like they are needed and important. They need somebody they can confide in. Without the attention, people tend to look for others who can provide them with what they need. Sometimes a person will cheat on their partner because they feel like their partner is not giving them as much attention as they would like them to (Marvin W Perry, 2008). When there is lack of attention in a relationship, we are tempted to look elsewhere, thus we will cheat. Another reason for cheating is partners always demonstrate insecurities and low self esteem. Insecurities towards your partner happens because we think of the idea of what if they falls for someone who is probably younger or prettier. When we let insecurities and our low self esteem control our mind, it will cause a larger gap distance between you
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