Wilson Theory Critique
The Theory Critique
Danny R. Totten
Liberty University
SummaryDemonstration of Understanding In Hurt People Hurt People, Sandra D. Wilson (2001) explicates that people that get hurt by people, tend to hurt other people. In doing so, this kind of behavior and led to a vicious continuous cycle that creates relational and generational hurts. Wilson (2001) found that, “All of us have been hurt by people who all were hurt by other people; we, as hurt people all have hurt other people” (p. 9). In addition, to relational and generational hurts, Wilson (2001) found that “actions, words, and attitudes that are intentional or unintentional, visible or invisible, hands-on or hands-off, other perpetrated or self-inflicted and barely survivable to hardly noticeable” (p. 9). When Dr. Wilson started out discussing how all people have been hurt in life, whether they intentionally hurt people or not, she emphasizes the fact that in most instances, hurt people hurt other people. In her presentation of how hurt people hurt people, she explicates that “resulting wounds and injuries we usually call physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual, verbal, or spiritual neglect, or abuse” (Wilson, 2001, p. 9). However, the emotional scars and wounds from betrayal and hurt sometimes are not visible, because there may not be any forms of physical abuse, but are deep emotional scars that can affect the well-being of a person for a very long time. In Dr. Wilson’s Hurt People Hurt People, she explicates how to assess clients and get them to talk about their upbringing and in most instances, their childhood have deep emotional scars (Wilson, 2001). Wilson (2001) found that “when parents are distracted by their own unhealed wounds, the pain demands all their attention and drains the emotional energy needed to instruct children. And distracted parents are unavailable parents” (P. 37 – 38). |
In most instances, these parents have unresolved emotional scars from their own
Danny R. Totten
Liberty University
SummaryDemonstration of Understanding In Hurt People Hurt People, Sandra D. Wilson (2001) explicates that people that get hurt by people, tend to hurt other people. In doing so, this kind of behavior and led to a vicious continuous cycle that creates relational and generational hurts. Wilson (2001) found that, “All of us have been hurt by people who all were hurt by other people; we, as hurt people all have hurt other people” (p. 9). In addition, to relational and generational hurts, Wilson (2001) found that “actions, words, and attitudes that are intentional or unintentional, visible or invisible, hands-on or hands-off, other perpetrated or self-inflicted and barely survivable to hardly noticeable” (p. 9). When Dr. Wilson started out discussing how all people have been hurt in life, whether they intentionally hurt people or not, she emphasizes the fact that in most instances, hurt people hurt other people. In her presentation of how hurt people hurt people, she explicates that “resulting wounds and injuries we usually call physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual, verbal, or spiritual neglect, or abuse” (Wilson, 2001, p. 9). However, the emotional scars and wounds from betrayal and hurt sometimes are not visible, because there may not be any forms of physical abuse, but are deep emotional scars that can affect the well-being of a person for a very long time. In Dr. Wilson’s Hurt People Hurt People, she explicates how to assess clients and get them to talk about their upbringing and in most instances, their childhood have deep emotional scars (Wilson, 2001). Wilson (2001) found that “when parents are distracted by their own unhealed wounds, the pain demands all their attention and drains the emotional energy needed to instruct children. And distracted parents are unavailable parents” (P. 37 – 38). |
In most instances, these parents have unresolved emotional scars from their own
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