Arranged marriage
Kingsley Iwule
English 101
Prof. K .Klatzkin
12/13/2014
Arranged Marriage: Good or Bad Idea? In our society, when most people hear about arranged marriage, the first thing that comes to the mind is “failure,” meaning that there’s no way such a thing would succeed because they think the couples would find it difficult to get along due to the fact they would have different opinions. In most cases, this would cause disagreement, which could lead to arguments and could eventually lead to separation between the couple. In the article “My parents choose my husband” by Debie Thomas, she writes about about how she got married to her husband through arranged marriage and it isn’t as bad as some people make it sound because she has been with her husband for a long time and they’ve been living in peace and harmony.
The author points out her parents choose her husband for her despite the fact that she was old enough to get married without anyone telling her whom to get married to. She explains that growing up as an Indian, she knew she was going to get married through arranged marriage. This was because in her family, dating was not tolerated. She said “I dated secretly in high school and college, hoping that my parents would change their minds and terrified at the prospect that they wouldn’t. I pleaded. I prayed for a miracle. But by the time I turned 20, I knew my arranged marriage was set in stone. Saying ‘no’ was not an option”. (Paragraph: #7) As time progressed, the author informs us her parents contacted a network of friends and relatives, and an international community came together to find her a husband (Paragraph: #8). The author goes on to explain that when she got married, she and her partner barely got along due to their inability to connect with each other. In other words, there was no love. They often had different opinions on matters and little arguments. But she knew something needed to be done in other to make their relationship grow. The author
English 101
Prof. K .Klatzkin
12/13/2014
Arranged Marriage: Good or Bad Idea? In our society, when most people hear about arranged marriage, the first thing that comes to the mind is “failure,” meaning that there’s no way such a thing would succeed because they think the couples would find it difficult to get along due to the fact they would have different opinions. In most cases, this would cause disagreement, which could lead to arguments and could eventually lead to separation between the couple. In the article “My parents choose my husband” by Debie Thomas, she writes about about how she got married to her husband through arranged marriage and it isn’t as bad as some people make it sound because she has been with her husband for a long time and they’ve been living in peace and harmony.
The author points out her parents choose her husband for her despite the fact that she was old enough to get married without anyone telling her whom to get married to. She explains that growing up as an Indian, she knew she was going to get married through arranged marriage. This was because in her family, dating was not tolerated. She said “I dated secretly in high school and college, hoping that my parents would change their minds and terrified at the prospect that they wouldn’t. I pleaded. I prayed for a miracle. But by the time I turned 20, I knew my arranged marriage was set in stone. Saying ‘no’ was not an option”. (Paragraph: #7) As time progressed, the author informs us her parents contacted a network of friends and relatives, and an international community came together to find her a husband (Paragraph: #8). The author goes on to explain that when she got married, she and her partner barely got along due to their inability to connect with each other. In other words, there was no love. They often had different opinions on matters and little arguments. But she knew something needed to be done in other to make their relationship grow. The author