Close Relationships Ensure Independence
People with avoidant attachment tend to be comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to them to feel independent and have self-sufficient. They prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on them because they already accepted their situation towards separation. People with this attachment style desire a high level of independence. The desire for independence often appears as an attempt to avoid attachment altogether. Because they have already accepted the separation towards their attachment figure, they view themselves as self-sufficient and safe to feelings associated with being closely attached to others. They often deny needing close relationships. Some may even view close relationships as relatively
unimportant. Not surprisingly, they seek less intimacy with relationship partners, whom they often view less positively than they view themselves. Investigators commonly note the defensive character of this attachment style. People with avoidant attachment style tend to accept feelings, and they tend to deal with rejection by distancing themselves from the sources of rejection (Graham, 2012).
unimportant. Not surprisingly, they seek less intimacy with relationship partners, whom they often view less positively than they view themselves. Investigators commonly note the defensive character of this attachment style. People with avoidant attachment style tend to accept feelings, and they tend to deal with rejection by distancing themselves from the sources of rejection (Graham, 2012).