Conflict
Exercise 2 Instructions
Step 1. Bring to mind a specific situation in each of the conflict style categories noted.
Step 2. Record who you were with; where; what was happening; what you wanted to happen; what did happen; and what you felt, thought, and did in the space provided .
Step 3. Indicate the extent to which this example can be generalized—that is, the extent to which it typifies your behavior with respect to a particular person, a certain type of person, or a specific situation.
Conflict Profile Worksheet
Collaborate
A time I collaborated in a conflict and arrived at a win/win outcome for myself and the other person:
When planning my daughter’s third birthday party, my mother and I had different opinions about how we should decorate and what the party would look like. We had made a Pinterest folder sharing ideas that we had for cake and decorations. A few weeks before the party, we decided to sit down with my family and we each weighed the pro and cons of each idea to narrow down which ones we could actually create. Through all the discussions, we collaborated to pick out several of our ideas to create a beautiful Little Mermaid party for my daughter.
Compromise
A time I compromised in a conflict when I achieved some of my outcomes but sacrificed others:
Last spring my family and I were planning a trip to Disneyland, unlike my family I am very enthusiastic about visiting and making sure my daughter would have an amazing time. However, my sister and I did not see eye-to-eye on which rides to start with and what time we should attend the newest attraction Mickey’s Magical Map. I felt strongly that we should attend the midday show because people would be at lunch. However, my sister felt that it would be best if we attend the first showing because no one would be at the park yet. It was frustrating to both of us because we just different opinions about where to start. However since we were planning to be visiting for 3 days we decided to compromise
Step 1. Bring to mind a specific situation in each of the conflict style categories noted.
Step 2. Record who you were with; where; what was happening; what you wanted to happen; what did happen; and what you felt, thought, and did in the space provided .
Step 3. Indicate the extent to which this example can be generalized—that is, the extent to which it typifies your behavior with respect to a particular person, a certain type of person, or a specific situation.
Conflict Profile Worksheet
Collaborate
A time I collaborated in a conflict and arrived at a win/win outcome for myself and the other person:
When planning my daughter’s third birthday party, my mother and I had different opinions about how we should decorate and what the party would look like. We had made a Pinterest folder sharing ideas that we had for cake and decorations. A few weeks before the party, we decided to sit down with my family and we each weighed the pro and cons of each idea to narrow down which ones we could actually create. Through all the discussions, we collaborated to pick out several of our ideas to create a beautiful Little Mermaid party for my daughter.
Compromise
A time I compromised in a conflict when I achieved some of my outcomes but sacrificed others:
Last spring my family and I were planning a trip to Disneyland, unlike my family I am very enthusiastic about visiting and making sure my daughter would have an amazing time. However, my sister and I did not see eye-to-eye on which rides to start with and what time we should attend the newest attraction Mickey’s Magical Map. I felt strongly that we should attend the midday show because people would be at lunch. However, my sister felt that it would be best if we attend the first showing because no one would be at the park yet. It was frustrating to both of us because we just different opinions about where to start. However since we were planning to be visiting for 3 days we decided to compromise