Deborah Tannen Sex Lies And Conversation Summary

There is a large problem when it comes to communication between men and women, whether it is between children, teenagers, or adults; because of a cross gender society. Once both sides understand this "cross-culture communication" problem, so that no gender is blamed, improvement will naturally occur. Deborah Tannen, is an award winning writer and a best selling author for her eccentric essays based on differences of male and female conversations. In the essay, "Sex, Lies and Conversation" she writes on the many distinctions of the style of conversations on both men and women.
The author's main belief in "Sex, Lies and Conversation", is that both men and women come from two different cultures and that during a simple a conversation it would
Basically a woman loves to show attention to the speaker and loves getting the same attention when she is the speaker. "Men, she found, more often give silent attention" (Tannen p.230). A woman's habit during a conversation is just as irritating to a man, as a man's conversation habit is to a woman. Women feel that when men are silent they aren't paying attention, while men feel that a woman's "stream of listener noise" as overreaction (Tannen p.231). For example, whenever I come home from school my mom always asks me, "How was school?". I could have the most boring story in the world and my mom will throw out sound affects of "Oooh", "Ahhh", and "Oh Wow". I mean seriously my stories of school are not remotely interesting and she is just so into the conversation like a little kid watching a magic show for the first time. I mean I love my mom but I just can't talk to her because the interruptions become very annoying after a while. My dad on the other hand, says "sounds good" gives a simple nod like he enjoyed the conversation and eats
229). Basically, a good conversation with a girl will help a long way because for them, friendships are based on conversation. She also states, that for a boy, friendship is "based less on talking, more on doing things together" (Tannen p.229). I remember one time me and a good friend of mine, were sitting out on my porch. And I thought it was the most beautiful and pleasant scene I've had in a while. The moon was full, the sky was clear with the stars, and I had a gorgeous girl to the right of me. No less than two minutes of sitting on the porch she leans over, and says those three magical words… "You're really boring". I look over to her confused and she asks me, "How come you're not talking?" . Annoyed by her interrupting blather I answer her, "How are YOU talking?". I mean she has a beautiful sky drawn in front of her, beautiful breeze right by her, and not to mention an Egyptian hunk on her side. I mean time is moving so fast and she can't even savor the moment by being quiet for five minutes? Frankly, the only time she'll hang out with me is if I keep her on top of her feet, fully armed with stories and jokes. But I'm sorry to say, that I only have so much funny stories, and once there done she calls me