Four Horsemen Of The Apocalypse Analysis
Hollie age 38, and Dwayne, age 42 an African American couple, have been married for nine years, with three boys ages 5-8. Both parents experienced a Baptist upbringing. Up until the past year, the family attended church each week together. Dwayne has been pulling back from attending weekly mass with his family. At first Hollie contributed Dwayne’s behavior to being tired from working during the week and wanting to rest.
Although Hollie has noticed over the past several years that Dwayne has taken a keen interest in the Islamic religion. At this point Dwayne no longer attends church with his family or any of the outside church activities. Hollie is beginning to feel contempt towards Dwayne and the amount of time he is dedicating to his duties within the is the nation. She feels that Dwayne is placing his new found religion as a priority over the family, and is not effectively communicating with her regarding his decision …show more content…
Dwayne also states that if Hollie would just convert to the Islamic way of life everything would be ok with their marriage. The couple is at a crossroads with their marriage.
Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse consist of stonewalling, defensiveness, contempt and criticism. (Gottman, Coan, Carrere, & Swanson, 1998). All factors of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse can have a profound effect on marriage and partner relationships.
Comfort level with different couple conflict situations
Often, by the time a couple enters into marriage counseling the couple has been participation in a cycle of destructive behavior ranging from, anger, hostility criticism, communication issues, and so forth. It is reported that more than 40% of clients who seek psychotherapy of any kind state marital distress and the reason (Gurman and Fraenkal,
Although Hollie has noticed over the past several years that Dwayne has taken a keen interest in the Islamic religion. At this point Dwayne no longer attends church with his family or any of the outside church activities. Hollie is beginning to feel contempt towards Dwayne and the amount of time he is dedicating to his duties within the is the nation. She feels that Dwayne is placing his new found religion as a priority over the family, and is not effectively communicating with her regarding his decision …show more content…
Dwayne also states that if Hollie would just convert to the Islamic way of life everything would be ok with their marriage. The couple is at a crossroads with their marriage.
Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse consist of stonewalling, defensiveness, contempt and criticism. (Gottman, Coan, Carrere, & Swanson, 1998). All factors of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse can have a profound effect on marriage and partner relationships.
Comfort level with different couple conflict situations
Often, by the time a couple enters into marriage counseling the couple has been participation in a cycle of destructive behavior ranging from, anger, hostility criticism, communication issues, and so forth. It is reported that more than 40% of clients who seek psychotherapy of any kind state marital distress and the reason (Gurman and Fraenkal,