In Praise of Frustration Adhd
3/3/13
Developmental Psych Topic Paper
I chose an article I found on the internet on the website Psychology Today titled In Praise of Frustration, by Bruce Poulsen. I had taken a look at several different articles, but this particular one I felt I could relate to course material and concepts I have learned thus far. The American Psychological Association had published new research suggesting that praising children for their personal qualities rather than their efforts towards a situation has a tendency to undermine feelings of shame. The study had shown that children with low self-esteem in particular were more susceptible to feelings of shame and self-doubt when they were praised in a situation for their personal qualities such as kindness or physical appearance rather than actual effort or ambition towards a goal or task. A report in science daily had said that these types of behaviors I had just referred to can actually backfire on the parents or caregivers. Parents may think it’s harmless to encourage their children with praise to dismiss a fail or crisis, but in fact it actual is detrimental to the child because they might take it as though they are unworthy and are only valued when they succeed. Studies have indeed shown that inflated self-esteem leads to poor grades. A benevolent view is that parents want the absolute best for their kids so they tend to baby them emotionally to try to take on their stress’s and loses as their own and empathize with them. Maybe we should keep it real with children and not set them up to fail so that we can normalize the process of autonomy. We might be sending the message to them that something is wrong because we are in emotional pain and that is maladaptive thinking. We may need to praise of children for managing frustration successfully or even discuss and assess a situation in which the child experienced frustration or pain (Psychology Today, 2/18/12).
I could relate this article to numerous course
Developmental Psych Topic Paper
I chose an article I found on the internet on the website Psychology Today titled In Praise of Frustration, by Bruce Poulsen. I had taken a look at several different articles, but this particular one I felt I could relate to course material and concepts I have learned thus far. The American Psychological Association had published new research suggesting that praising children for their personal qualities rather than their efforts towards a situation has a tendency to undermine feelings of shame. The study had shown that children with low self-esteem in particular were more susceptible to feelings of shame and self-doubt when they were praised in a situation for their personal qualities such as kindness or physical appearance rather than actual effort or ambition towards a goal or task. A report in science daily had said that these types of behaviors I had just referred to can actually backfire on the parents or caregivers. Parents may think it’s harmless to encourage their children with praise to dismiss a fail or crisis, but in fact it actual is detrimental to the child because they might take it as though they are unworthy and are only valued when they succeed. Studies have indeed shown that inflated self-esteem leads to poor grades. A benevolent view is that parents want the absolute best for their kids so they tend to baby them emotionally to try to take on their stress’s and loses as their own and empathize with them. Maybe we should keep it real with children and not set them up to fail so that we can normalize the process of autonomy. We might be sending the message to them that something is wrong because we are in emotional pain and that is maladaptive thinking. We may need to praise of children for managing frustration successfully or even discuss and assess a situation in which the child experienced frustration or pain (Psychology Today, 2/18/12).
I could relate this article to numerous course