Claire grimmett
Dr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross pioneered methods to support the emotional and psychological responses that many people experience after suffering from personal trauma, grief and grieving, associated with death and dying. In 1969 Dr Kubler-Ross wrote a book called ‘on death and dying’. From writing this book she also dramatically improved peoples understanding and practices in relation to bereavement and care.
Her theory talks about the ‘five stages of grief’ (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance) which can also be transferrable to personal trauma’s caused by factors other than death and dying. During observations, similar reactions to those explained by Kubler-Ross have been seen in people confronted by far less serious traumas than death and bereavement such as mental illness, redundancy, crime and punishment etc.
If this life event happens to challenge/confront something difficult to them or an area of psychological weakness(jumping out of a plane, moving to a new town, a job-change or spider phobia), this to them could be the ultimate trauma, causing the same emotional shock as someone dealing with death or dying.
This is because trauma and emotional shock are relative in terms of effect on people. These 5 stages (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance) are not meant to be complete or chronological. Not everyone who experiences a life threating or life-changing event feels all five of these responses nor will everyone who does experience them, do so in the way they were written.
Reactions to illness, death and loss are as unique as the person experiencing them. However from saying this it is known that everyone who goes through one stage will always experience another as two of the stages will always be experienced.
In my current work setting, I work with many challenging young people who present with mental heath issues. During my time here I have observed a high percentage of them