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Love is a Private Affair
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Every family has conflicts with one another, as well as family drama. Usually, it results in not talking to that family member for a while or they just forget about it and move on. Seldom do people actually sit and talk about who is at fault and what truly caused the conflict. If you were to analyze every conflict you would realize they all lead back to assumptions made by both sides. In love is a private Affair, the father and son get into an argument that is built from assumptions made by both parties. In Love is a Private Affair, the son Nnaemeka is going against tradition and chose to marry a girl his family did not pick for him. Nnaemeka tells his father about his engagement to Nene, after his father picked out the girl he was meant to marry. The Conflict rises before Nnaemeka even tells his father about Nene. Nnaemeka is worried his father will not approve of the engagement because Nene was not chosen by his father and she is not from their tribe. When Nnaemeka tells his father, Okeke, he automatically disapproves. The conflict started between Okeke and Nnaemeka before Nnaemeka even approach his father with the news of his engagement. He assumes that his father will not approve of the engagement. “ They are most unhappy if the engagement is not arranged by them. In our case it’s worse - you are not even an Ibo.” Nnaemeka is explaining to his fiance that his people will be even more unhappy about this engagement because she is not an Ibo. Nnaemeka is assuming that his people will not approve of the marriage. Once Nnaemeka tells his father about the engagement he automatically assumes she is not going to be a good wife. He did not like that Nene worked, Okeke believes women should be kept in silent. “If you consider that a qualification for a good wife I should like to point out to you, Emeka, that no Christian Women should teach. St.Paul in his letter to the Corinthians says that women should keep silence.” Okeke is

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