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Family Relationships – What are worrying signs in family relationships?
Many parents recognise the impact of their adult relationship difficulties on both how they parent and directly on their children. It seems that for some people seeking help about children and parenting is more acceptable than seeking help about couple relationships
• how relationships work
• why they can sometimes run into difficulties: and
• how couples cope when they do.
It is common for children’s behaviour to deteriorate when they feel insecure because they see or feel things between their parents are not going well, and younger children in particular are likely to feel responsible.
Splitting up or staying together?
It’s not uncommon for couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationship to consider splitting up as their only choice. Some may feel they’ve exhausted all the options, while for others it may be the first thing they consider. However, splitting up might not be the only choice. Before taking this step, it’s important to talk honestly and openly about feelings, needs, disappointments and fears.“
Many couples doing this can discover when their relationship began to deteriorate and the small niggles that were ignored at first and developed into big problems.
Common trigger points that put a strain on relationships are:
• Money
• Unemployment
• New baby
• Changing roles
• Children leaving home
• Sex.
Money
As a parent, your financial responsibility for your child does not end when your relationship with the other parent ends.
Child maintenance is regular financial support towards a child’s everyday living costs. It is paid by the parent without the main day-to-day care of the child to the parent with the main care. Since April 10 2010, all parents with the main day-to-day care have been allowed to keep all of their child maintenance without it affecting out-of-work benefits.
Changing Roles
Having a baby forces new roles on couples. It
Many parents recognise the impact of their adult relationship difficulties on both how they parent and directly on their children. It seems that for some people seeking help about children and parenting is more acceptable than seeking help about couple relationships
• how relationships work
• why they can sometimes run into difficulties: and
• how couples cope when they do.
It is common for children’s behaviour to deteriorate when they feel insecure because they see or feel things between their parents are not going well, and younger children in particular are likely to feel responsible.
Splitting up or staying together?
It’s not uncommon for couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationship to consider splitting up as their only choice. Some may feel they’ve exhausted all the options, while for others it may be the first thing they consider. However, splitting up might not be the only choice. Before taking this step, it’s important to talk honestly and openly about feelings, needs, disappointments and fears.“
Many couples doing this can discover when their relationship began to deteriorate and the small niggles that were ignored at first and developed into big problems.
Common trigger points that put a strain on relationships are:
• Money
• Unemployment
• New baby
• Changing roles
• Children leaving home
• Sex.
Money
As a parent, your financial responsibility for your child does not end when your relationship with the other parent ends.
Child maintenance is regular financial support towards a child’s everyday living costs. It is paid by the parent without the main day-to-day care of the child to the parent with the main care. Since April 10 2010, all parents with the main day-to-day care have been allowed to keep all of their child maintenance without it affecting out-of-work benefits.
Changing Roles
Having a baby forces new roles on couples. It