To begin with, counting to ten always keeps you on the safe side. I can’t tell you ho many times I have heard from close friends that they have ruined older friendships because they got mad at each other. Losing one’s temper pushes him to say things that he do not represent who he is , he just said it because he
was in such a defensive position. For example, one of my classmates started blaming me for telling the teacher that she didn’t do her homework. Instead of e fighting her back, I quietly tried to explain to her that I have never done such a thing. Unfortunately, she didn’t believe me ansd stopped talking to me. Later when the teacher told her by accident that it was her mom who told the teacher, she got very upset. Two day later, she opologized for not dealing with the problem as an adult, like I did, and said that she feels very embarrassed by her foolish behaviour.
Secondly, keeping calm helps you think better. As far as I am concerned, when you get angry, you tend to focus on the problem rather than the solution. Even if you try to solve the problem, you negative mind set might not lead you to the best decision. I can recall an experiment form psychology class that strongly supports my opinion. Students were put in different rooms that included only one locked door. Few hours later, different students showed different reactions. Those that got mad started to hit the door and tried to break it open. On the other hand, those quiet ones started searching for a hidden key to open the door. Those irst one ended up almost injuring themselves without opening the door. Whereas many of the second group was successfully able to find a hidden key and opened the door. Therefore, my experience has taught me that being wise means being understanding, thoughtful and patient.
In a nut shell, there is no doubt that we are all prone to face obstacles in life. However, it is how wisely we address and try to solve those problems, that make us successful people.