Summary Of Sex Lies And Conversation By Deborah Tannen

According to the report of divorce rate, that more than 50 percent of circumstance divorce rate amount to millions of case in the United State every year. The reason for that problems are husband and wife actively addicted to drug, alcohol or withholding sex; however, the biggest problem of divorce is the women and the men failed in conversation, they miss understanding between husband and wife. According to Deborah Tannen, ''Sex, Lies, and Conversation'' that she explained the women and the men are different between biologically and inherently. The men are really good at communicating, frequently offering ideas and anecdotes but the women like to talk more at home, they always complaining about their husbands was focused not on tangible inequities, they just care about the company and focused on communication.
But they do not know how to share with their wife to do some work at home like cleaning or cooking.
The problems in here, they do not want to talk each other to explain what they really expect it to be. Whenever the men going home rather they just go to sleep or no want to talk because even when they try to argue, the women will talk about her topic of view if the men show his new topic, the women will get mad at the men. As an example how do you think when a husband and a wife slept in the separate bedroom and slipped into separate life, here I know for sure that the men just go home to take a nap after a busy day in work and the women will feel betrayed, hurt and angry because their husband does not want to talk, to share and to rebuild a relationship with their wife. But the women did not know when they are quiet is that time he is trying to concentrate on what she was saying. The author was trying to experiment about listen to body languages and the result is the women make more listener-noise and the men were being trying to experiment about listen to body language and the result is the women perceive such responses as belittling and
unsupportive. At the result, with an opinion of a student, I think to make better decisions in the family, everybody should think about their children and what happen to their children if anyone never meets their parents again in future. Then, they must commit to a monogamous relationship together and sharing the interested in actively working to build a new relationship based on truth, honesty, and respectful. Everyone should not be silent when the situation is going on, let have a sit together and explain very slowly to each other can understand the mistake. Hence, when both of them understand the problem, let fix the situation together and be condescend or maybe let watch movies together to rebuild your relationship. That is sound really simple but it will you help you a lot to adapt in love. In these time the people are living in busy work, to gain more money, to achieve what they really want; but no one knows there was reason that leads to the divorcement between husband and wife in our society. Finally, people should get more involves, spend more time with their family or children; that will increase the truly love for each other and to promote a better family in future.