Why We Lie Research Paper

Many relationships today,and in the past have suffered greatly from a single act of lie. A very good number of young people today, when asked why they lie to their spouse, the answer is always -To protect them. Protect who? I don't see how lying protects anyone,most especially the people we claim to love,because lies itself means false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive. Therefore, how can we claim to love someone with whom we deliberately deceive?

Lies is a box of false illusion. On lying to our spouse, we are sometimes under the illusion that it is the right thing to do at a time, and ones we have made the choice to lie to our spouse,we are making a choice for us and our spouse. Have you given your spouse consideration as to
what their choice could be? Do you care how the lies will affect them eventually? How about how badly the lies will break them than the truth ever will.

There are two kinds of people, and the reasons why they lie.
The first kind of people lie for the fear and shame of their actions. These set of people cannot stand the outcome of what telling the truth might bring,maybe shame or disgrace. Sometimes, they might consider telling the truth but, fear of the unknown can hinder them from relating the truth to their spouse. The second kinds are the pathological lairs.There is almost nothing truthful about them.They always see every reason to lie , even in circumstances where the truth posses no threat to them.They just can't do without telling a lie. They have a great challenge of maintaining friendship for long and they hardly ever keep a stable relationship. People from this category, as surprising as it is, they were not born with this habit, they build up this habit over time which becomes a huge part of them.They tend to live a normal life and are very unaware of their
pathology.

Falsehood is cheap.Honesty is expensive....You don't expect it from cheap people.
Lying to your spouse doesn't protect them rather, it tells how cheap you are, and if you love your spouse as you claim to protect them by lying to them, you should at this point realize that they don't deserve cheap people like you. Therefore, if you must lie to them, you shouldn't fail to remember how cheap you are and how you don't deserve to be in their
lives.

We can all save our relationships by doing the right thing, which is telling our spouse the truth at all times and at all cost thereby giving them a chance to make the choice of either forgiving you and letting you remain in their lives or letting you go. That lie might some day find its way to light, then what? That will be the moment to tell the truth and say, oh I'm sorry i wanted to protect you? For me, at this point i am done and if i have to continue my relationship, i will never get to trust my spouse. We can all do the right thing by telling our spouse the truth at all cost. Remember truth pays because honesty is expensive.