A Change in the Way You Deal with Other People
A change in the way you deal with other people
Chasity
I have learned the only way to deal with other people is to change what’s within yourself first. A true saying, “You can try but you can’t change others”. The one way to approach the issue is to change how you act and view other people. By doing this, everything else will fall in place.
With our attitude or what make us become so aggressive with a person, depends on what they have done, the way the person approach you, how they even looked at you, or their voice. All these things can drive the other party to reaction.
Be clear with the next person on how much you can take. Informed them of your space you need, or you could easily get pushed over by others. You could find yourself quietly pushed in a corner and feeling wretched unhappy.
Dealing with a situation; what is the best you can bring to the situation? Overlooking of what they have done, and how you could make the situation better. Were you open minded, understanding, thoughtful, or sympathetic?
Let a person know how much time they have in the conversation with you. Therefore, you’re being upfront and you are informing them in advance. By doing this, you are letting the other individual know where you stand and keeping them from invading your space. Keep in mind whether you would like to communicate via email/text/chat/other channels.
Never dump on the offender; moreover, it makes you less of a good contestant for help. You are in charge of your responses and you can train your own mind to work in that mind frame.
Be strong when making your limitations. Then enforce them. Give a courtesy reminder to the individual. If they don’t get the insinuation, then make a call and draw the line right there. Normally, I would tend to a person’s need but forget about my own. Which I would invade my own space with time and energy. Then you’ll realize if you were meeting your own needs. Ignoring them could be a good idea, but it has to be at the right
Chasity
I have learned the only way to deal with other people is to change what’s within yourself first. A true saying, “You can try but you can’t change others”. The one way to approach the issue is to change how you act and view other people. By doing this, everything else will fall in place.
With our attitude or what make us become so aggressive with a person, depends on what they have done, the way the person approach you, how they even looked at you, or their voice. All these things can drive the other party to reaction.
Be clear with the next person on how much you can take. Informed them of your space you need, or you could easily get pushed over by others. You could find yourself quietly pushed in a corner and feeling wretched unhappy.
Dealing with a situation; what is the best you can bring to the situation? Overlooking of what they have done, and how you could make the situation better. Were you open minded, understanding, thoughtful, or sympathetic?
Let a person know how much time they have in the conversation with you. Therefore, you’re being upfront and you are informing them in advance. By doing this, you are letting the other individual know where you stand and keeping them from invading your space. Keep in mind whether you would like to communicate via email/text/chat/other channels.
Never dump on the offender; moreover, it makes you less of a good contestant for help. You are in charge of your responses and you can train your own mind to work in that mind frame.
Be strong when making your limitations. Then enforce them. Give a courtesy reminder to the individual. If they don’t get the insinuation, then make a call and draw the line right there. Normally, I would tend to a person’s need but forget about my own. Which I would invade my own space with time and energy. Then you’ll realize if you were meeting your own needs. Ignoring them could be a good idea, but it has to be at the right
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