Do Helicopter Mom Do More Harm Than Good Analysis
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The article from the internet Do ’Helicopter Moms’ Do More Harm Than Good? written in 2005, is about a woman called Robyn Lewis, who is doing the fulltime mother job for her two boys in the age of 21 and 18.
Robyn Lewis tells how she is taking care of her big boys. She talks to them on the phone all the time and when she doesn’t do that, she organizes their lives. She is actually still washing their clothes, checking their grades, proofreading their papers, checking their bank account balances, checking their student e-mails and so on. The sons are okay with it, they know that it is for their sake she does it, but a consulting on parenting relations, says that she is not helping her children and that she needs to let go. Robyn Lewis …show more content…
says that she is trying and she knows she will not always be the most important person in their lives, but it still difficult to let go of her boys. 2.
In the article Do ’Helicopter Moms’ Do More Harm Than Good?, written in 2005, Helen Johnson, consultant on parental relations and author of the book Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money, says that what the over-parenting parents thinks are the best for their child, often is exactly what isn’t good for their child. They are simply serving their life on a silver dish and then the children do not learn about independence and therefore is going to get a tough time later on. She says that the children are incapable, because the parents actually brand them as incapable.
In the article A Mother Steps Back from the Pull of Over-Parenting, written in 2010, Bethany Young Hardy, the writer of the article, were one of those mothers who had a hard time letting go, but she did. She toke her son to a Baby Yoga class and then a tumbling class, which was chaotic, and then she decided to take him to another kind of class. When that didn’t work out either, she tried another class. When she couldn’t control him at a class, she tried another one. She pulled him through 6 different classes and at last she finally stopped. When she was a child, she learned not to quit, but now her son taught her that it is okay to quit. She learned to let go of her own childhood hang-ups, and now wants her son to try on his own and learn how to venture and …show more content…
fail. Over-parenting parent should have to learn how to let go of their own hang-ups, their childhood, because they often take it along and use it for their own children, who might not respond in the same way as the parent did when he/she was a child.
In the article Over-Parenting is the Curse of Our Time, written in 2008 in The Independent, Johann Hari, the writer of the article, says that the children are missing out on life, if they do not take any risks in life, which the parents won’t let them. They are being over-protective. If the children grow up to be divas who think they can get whatever they want, without any consequences, they only have the parents to blame for the troubles they are going to have with other people. What the parents are trying to do have an opposite effect – they try to do the best for their child, try to keep them out of trouble, try to be nice and make their child happy, but in the end the children are going to get into troubles anyways, because of their diva-behavior. Parents need to face that it is them who are messing up their own children.
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The statement “It’s an essential part of growing up to learn to take risks, get in trouble, and sort it out on your own” from the article Over-Parenting is the Curse of Our Time, written in 2008, is so true in my opinion. If you as a child never learn how to take a risk, then you won’t get any experience and only learn what is giving to you. If you never get into trouble, then you never learn how to handle a tough situation, you will be terribly surprised when you get out in the real world, where everything isn’t going after your schedule and what you know of. If you never learn about sorting out problems on your own, then you are dependent on someone to do it for you. If you can’t learn to handle conflicts, you probably won’t get a good social life or working life. I wouldn’t want a life, where I had not learned about risking, failing, getting in and out of trouble or dealing with my own problems, I would be so unpopular. I would get cranky or even mad, if I lost a simple game of Scrabble, because I wouldn’t know how to deal with a loss. Before I really know what wining is about, I would have to have lost before, or else the winning part would be extremely boring – then there wouldn’t be any point of playing a game, would there? My point being; I have to have had some experiences to really know about life, to really know who I am and to really know how to deal with the world.
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Über-parents isn’t that über after all
Too many irresponsible, whimpering, fussed and soft divas has been born, or actually they were not born that way, they were raised in a way which made them into these coddles.
Too many parents are trying to be über-parents, but have become over-parenting fussing parents. The fact is that they just want to take care of their babies, make sure that they are doing okay and to be a part of their lives as they get older, so they do what they think is best for their child, but for many children that is just not the case.
In worst case, the consequences for their children are that they don’t learn to take care of themselves; they don’t learn to handle a tough work situation as well as social life situation.
The children’s lives are being ruined by parents who are trying to “protect” their children from every little obstacle or conflict they may meet. It’s not necessary to protect the children against the world. If they are not allowed to go outside and experience the world, they will never learn to handle tough situations or all in all be on their
own.
Children actually have an assumption to learn about life and make on their own, if the parents just give them the right tools, to go out and explore the world with. Basically parents need to teach their children about the fact that they can’t always win and another very important quality in life – responsibility - which can affect big parts of their lives. If you are responsible, you can take care of your own life or at least learn to. In any case, responsibility is a quality which affects both their social life and work life in a good way.
Vania Kellmann Borring
1.
The article from the internet Do ’Helicopter Moms’ Do More Harm Than Good? written in 2005, is about a woman called Robyn Lewis, who is doing the fulltime mother job for her two boys in the age of 21 and 18.
Robyn Lewis tells how she is taking care of her big boys. She talks to them on the phone all the time and when she doesn’t do that, she organizes their lives. She is actually still washing their clothes, checking their grades, proofreading their papers, checking their bank account balances, checking their student e-mails and so on. The sons are okay with it, they know that it is for their sake she does it, but a consulting on parenting relations, says that she is not helping her children and that she needs to let go. Robyn Lewis …show more content…
says that she is trying and she knows she will not always be the most important person in their lives, but it still difficult to let go of her boys. 2.
In the article Do ’Helicopter Moms’ Do More Harm Than Good?, written in 2005, Helen Johnson, consultant on parental relations and author of the book Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money, says that what the over-parenting parents thinks are the best for their child, often is exactly what isn’t good for their child. They are simply serving their life on a silver dish and then the children do not learn about independence and therefore is going to get a tough time later on. She says that the children are incapable, because the parents actually brand them as incapable.
In the article A Mother Steps Back from the Pull of Over-Parenting, written in 2010, Bethany Young Hardy, the writer of the article, were one of those mothers who had a hard time letting go, but she did. She toke her son to a Baby Yoga class and then a tumbling class, which was chaotic, and then she decided to take him to another kind of class. When that didn’t work out either, she tried another class. When she couldn’t control him at a class, she tried another one. She pulled him through 6 different classes and at last she finally stopped. When she was a child, she learned not to quit, but now her son taught her that it is okay to quit. She learned to let go of her own childhood hang-ups, and now wants her son to try on his own and learn how to venture and …show more content…
fail. Over-parenting parent should have to learn how to let go of their own hang-ups, their childhood, because they often take it along and use it for their own children, who might not respond in the same way as the parent did when he/she was a child.
In the article Over-Parenting is the Curse of Our Time, written in 2008 in The Independent, Johann Hari, the writer of the article, says that the children are missing out on life, if they do not take any risks in life, which the parents won’t let them. They are being over-protective. If the children grow up to be divas who think they can get whatever they want, without any consequences, they only have the parents to blame for the troubles they are going to have with other people. What the parents are trying to do have an opposite effect – they try to do the best for their child, try to keep them out of trouble, try to be nice and make their child happy, but in the end the children are going to get into troubles anyways, because of their diva-behavior. Parents need to face that it is them who are messing up their own children.
3.
The statement “It’s an essential part of growing up to learn to take risks, get in trouble, and sort it out on your own” from the article Over-Parenting is the Curse of Our Time, written in 2008, is so true in my opinion. If you as a child never learn how to take a risk, then you won’t get any experience and only learn what is giving to you. If you never get into trouble, then you never learn how to handle a tough situation, you will be terribly surprised when you get out in the real world, where everything isn’t going after your schedule and what you know of. If you never learn about sorting out problems on your own, then you are dependent on someone to do it for you. If you can’t learn to handle conflicts, you probably won’t get a good social life or working life. I wouldn’t want a life, where I had not learned about risking, failing, getting in and out of trouble or dealing with my own problems, I would be so unpopular. I would get cranky or even mad, if I lost a simple game of Scrabble, because I wouldn’t know how to deal with a loss. Before I really know what wining is about, I would have to have lost before, or else the winning part would be extremely boring – then there wouldn’t be any point of playing a game, would there? My point being; I have to have had some experiences to really know about life, to really know who I am and to really know how to deal with the world.
4.
Über-parents isn’t that über after all
Too many irresponsible, whimpering, fussed and soft divas has been born, or actually they were not born that way, they were raised in a way which made them into these coddles.
Too many parents are trying to be über-parents, but have become over-parenting fussing parents. The fact is that they just want to take care of their babies, make sure that they are doing okay and to be a part of their lives as they get older, so they do what they think is best for their child, but for many children that is just not the case.
In worst case, the consequences for their children are that they don’t learn to take care of themselves; they don’t learn to handle a tough work situation as well as social life situation.
The children’s lives are being ruined by parents who are trying to “protect” their children from every little obstacle or conflict they may meet. It’s not necessary to protect the children against the world. If they are not allowed to go outside and experience the world, they will never learn to handle tough situations or all in all be on their
own.
Children actually have an assumption to learn about life and make on their own, if the parents just give them the right tools, to go out and explore the world with. Basically parents need to teach their children about the fact that they can’t always win and another very important quality in life – responsibility - which can affect big parts of their lives. If you are responsible, you can take care of your own life or at least learn to. In any case, responsibility is a quality which affects both their social life and work life in a good way.
Vania Kellmann Borring