Egos Make Changes

Each of us has its own unique character. Character is something that is natural for human beings, there can be easy to change but it is also hard to change. Ego is a trait that can be good if it fits in place, but will be negative if otherwise. Watt (2015) stated “that all egos have their flaws, which is perfectly okay. However, there’s nothing wrong with developing it either. If our ego is continually angry, self-absorbed, depressed, stubborn or an array of other problematic mind and behavioural states, then there is a clear need for some self-improvement.” In this essay, we will discuss several reasons why people are afraid to make changes in their life.

Firstly, some people are afraid to change because they are afraid to meet challenges.
The people fear if they do not have a help and support from other people around them. People want to be helped, but not all the help and support you when you need it. According to Berger (2005). “Being alone and lonely, and even just the fear of being alone, make many people insecure, anxious and depressed. If you fear being alone you may become over needy of other people and feel as if you must be around people at all times. While we all, to varying degrees, need people in our life, if you feel you must have people around all the time then this need is controlling you.” Moore (2009) stated “You see the world as changeable because you can change it. The vision of self and the vision of world are related,” says Drayton. “If you come from a background (where) everyone says ‘You can’t, you can’t, you can’t – you won’t. You won’t have practiced it. You won’t have defined yourself that way.” (p.164). Based on the Al-Quran, [Allah] said, "Fear not. Indeed, I am with you both; I hear and I see” (Al-Quran. Taha 20:46). Fear is just a pressure. So, we must be wise in managing ourselves and do not let the people see our weaknesses. Do not let fear control ourselves, if not, we will always be in the same place and will not go forward
Pratt (2016) pointed “Sometimes when you’re trying to make a big decision, you think you only have one choice if you don’t want to accept the current situation. For example, you can stay in a job you hate or you can quit and be unemployed. And if you’re like me you’ll add things like “unemployed and starving to death and I'll never be able to find another job.” I’ll mentally paint myself into a corner (motivated by fear or uncertainty) and feel there is no way out. I’ll feel like I have to stay in the situation because there is no other option. The truth is there is always another option. Sometimes it can take a little brainstorming to come up with a list of possible solutions but rarely are you truly ever without any choices.” So, from all above, we can know that the big enemy in our life is ourselves because we know what we can do and we are only know what we can’t