in public.
The closest relationship I’d had with anyone ended abruptly and I spent years feeling undecided about if I wanted to mend this relationship, but I never got that opportunity because Monta passed away at the age of 51 unexpectedly.
She could be cruel, mean, raging, intimidating, but at the same time; she was caring, giving, and very intuitive. I found over time, after much thought, that I believed it was when she was feeling uncomfortable or trapped, that she would put her guard up and be ‘on the defensive’. It was during these times (or outburst) that I would feel trapped and definitely unsure about what I was witnessing around me. I started to notice a change in my demeanor as well. I was no longer feeling incapable and unsure, but uneasy and edgy. I was agitated by the situation, and at times feeling furious about her behavior, but yet I felt weak and helpless by virtue of not knowing how to stop her from making these scenes in public. I would get upset at the littlest things, which years ago I would have seen it
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