How Do You Recognize An Attachment Theory

Jajuana Click
Professor Violet Rudd
Human Sexuality
May 17, 2018 Attachment Styles
Attachment is a term for the intense emotional tie that develops between two individuals, such as the tie between an infant and a parent or between adult lovers (Rholes et al., 2006).
Attachment theory is a psychological model that attempts to describe the dynamics of long-term and short-term interpersonal relationships between humans. However, “attachment theory is not formulated as a general theory of relationships”. Our style of attachment affects everything from our partner selection to how well our relationship progress to, sadly, how they end. That is why recognizing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a
relationship.
Instead of feeling real love or trust toward their partner, they often feel emotional hunger. They’re frequently looking to their partner to rescue or complete them.
Although they’re seeking a sense of safety and security by clinging to their partner, they take actions that push their partner away. Even though anxiously attached individuals act desperate or insecure, often, their behavior exacerbates their own fears. When they feel unsure of their relationship, they often become clingy, demanding or possessive toward their partner. They may have interpreted independent actions by their fears. For example, if their partner starts socializing more with friends, they may think,” He/She doesn’t really love me. This mean they will leave me.
I was right not to trust them”.
People with a dismissive avoidant attachment have the tendency to emotionally distance themselves from their partner. They may seek isolation and feel “pseudo-independent,” taking on the role of parenting themselves. They often come off as focused on themselves and may be overly attending to their creature comforts. Pseudo-independence is an illusion, as every human being needs connection. People with a dismissive avoidant attachment tend to lead more
They attempt to keep their feelings at bay but are unable to. They can’t avoid their anxiety or run away from their feelings. Instead, they are over whelmed by their reactions and often experience emotional storms. They tend to be mixed up or unpredictable in their moods. They see their relationships from the working model that you need to go toward others to get your needs met, but if you get close to others, they will hurry you.
As adults, these individuals tend to find themselves in rocky or dramatic relationships, with many high and lows. They may cling to their partner when they feel rejected, then feel trapped when they are close. Oftentimes, the timing seems to be off between them and their partner. A person with fearful avoidant attachment may even wind up in an abusive relationship.
The attachment style that you developed as a child based on your relationship with a parent or early caretaker doesn’t have to define your ways of relating to those you love in your adult life. If you come to know your attachment style, you can uncover ways you are