Positive Reinforcement: Middle Daughter
Positive Reinforcement
I have three daughters ages: 9, 7, & 3 years old. I use positive reinforcement differently with my two older daughters than that of my youngest. My oldest daughter is in third grade and my middle daughter is in first grade. I often use positive reinforcement strategies on them to praise them for a good job on their school work. When they bring home a graded paper that they received an 100% on they are very proud of the grade. I say to them that I'm proud of their good grade and I say encouraging words: Wow that is great, awesome, way to go, terrific, fantastic, right on, keep up the good work. I also give them …show more content…
a big hug and smile and put their paper on the refrigerator. By praising them and letting them know that I'm so happy that they did a good job on their assignment this will encourage them to do good on all of their assignments in school. They don’t always get all “A’s” or 100% on their papers but even if they get a low score I still praise them and tell them that I know on the next paper that they will be able to bring their grade up. I also reward them by giving them a special treat such as ice cream when they get good grades on their report card.
I also use positive reinforcement when I want them to help do chores around the house. I will give them a task to do and as they are completing the task I will let them know that I appreciate their help and that they are doing such a good job. I also keep a weekly chore sheet and when they have completed their chores for the day they get a sticker on the board and at the end of the week if they have completed all of their chores they get to choose a fun activity to do such as, go to the children’s museum, go to the movies, skating, or spend the night at grandma’s house.
For my youngest daughter she is three years old and she attends preschool but of course she doesn’t get graded on her assignments. For her, I use positive reinforcement to reassure that she will behave while she is at school. I tell her to be nice to the other children and listen to her teacher and follow directions. I say encouraging words to her also like act like a big girl today and play nice with your friends. I also praise her when I pick her up from preschool at the end of the day and give her a big hug and a high five and tell her that I'm so proud of her and that she is such a big girl. She is also in the process of becoming potty trained. I use positive reinforcement to encourage her to go to the toilet when she has to go potty. I praise her when she goes to the potty and clap and we sing a song, “Yeah, big girls so pee pee and poopy in the potty!” Also if she has a clean pull up all day without going potty on herself before bed time she gets a special treat. Negative Reinforcement
My daughters have a chore schedule that they complete daily afterschool. Majority of the time they do their chores without me having to nag at them to do so but, sometimes I do have to nag at them and tell them several times to do their chores. I will even stand over them and point out what I want them to do for example, pick up their clothes off the floor, pick up their toys and place them in the toy box, make their bed, put their book bags and school supplies away, do their homework, clean the cat’s litter box. When I nag at them about doing what they are suppose to do and hover over them insuring that they are completing their chores it annoys them, so as a results of me nagging and hovering over them to do their chores, they do what I asked and I quit nagging. So negative reinforcement is used because of unpleasant stimulus. When I nag at them they become annoyed so therefore they do their chores in order for me to quit nagging at them. Negative reinforcement increases the probability that my daughters behavior will change because they know that if they do not complete their chores I will nag at them until it is completed. So to avoid being nagged to do their chores they complete the task.
Another example of negative reinforcement is when my daughters complete their school assignments on time to avoid receiving a lower grade or getting a letter sent home that their assignments were not turned in on time and they did not receive a “homework hero” award. Sometimes depending on the assignment their teachers may take their recess time away if they have not completed an assignment in a timely manner. Negative reinforcement is used in this situation due to avoidance. My daughters do not want to get a lower grade on an assignment or miss recess so they avoid not missing recess or not receiving a letter sent home by completing their assignments when their teacher asks them to do so. They also know that if they conduct good behavior they will be rewarded but if they do not conduct good behavior disciplinary action will occur.
Punishment by Removal
Punishment by removal is the main form of discipline that I use on my children. When my children do not display appropriate behavior such as back talking or being disruptive and disrespectful. I will place them in the corner for a time out. I normally place them in time out for five to ten minutes depending on if they stand in the corner and do not throw a fit and do what I explained for them to do. If they do not comply and throw a fit while they are standing in time out they get an additional five minutes added on to their time for any outburst they do while in time out. After their time out session they are allowed to resume their activity, go play outside, finish watching tv, color in their coloring book, whatever they were doing before they got in trouble. They are removed from the activity they were doing because of negative behavior and given time to think about their actions and how to improve their behavior.
The other form of punishment by removal I use on my children is taking objects away from them. If after a time out session my children continue to misbehave I will take objects or privileges away from them. For example if my daughter is playing her Nintendo DS and she disobeys and I place her in time out and warn her while she is in time out that if she does not improve her behavior she will lose her Nintendo privilege for the rest of the day. Or if my daughter is watching tv and she disobeys and is placed in time out while she is in the corner I will explain that if she does not improve her behavior she will not be allowed to watch tv for the rest of the day. Whatever activity they are doing before they get placed in time out if after words if they continue to misbehave they will lose that object or privilege for the rest of the day.
If over the course of several days they continue to conduct unacceptable behavior they will lose all privileges for an entire week.
During the week that they are “in trouble” they are not allowed to watch tv, play outside, play their Nintendo, play with any of their toys, go to their grandma’s house, or participate in any fun activity. Their punishment for the week is that they are “grounded” to their bedroom and they have to write 50 sentences per day, the sentences consist of: “I will improve my behavior” or
“ I am sorry I disobeyed and I will listen and do what is expected” or anything that has to do with why they got in trouble.
Punishment by removal is effective because when my children misbehave and do not obey the rules they know that the consequence is something that is valuable and rewarding to them will be revoked until they can display good behavior. They do not have the freedom to do anything that they chose and they have to do something that they do not enjoy doing, which is sitting in their bedroom writing
sentences. Punishment by Application
Spanking children is a highly debated subject. Many people in our society see spanking as a form of child abuse because some parents may spank their child when they are angry or may use objects such as a wooden paddle, or belt. When you are angry or frustrated at your child, and if you spank your child with an object other than your hand, you can cause great harm both physically and emotionally to your child. Also if you constantly spank your child this can cause your child to become scared and afraid of you and can actually worsen their behavior. Children who are spanked on a daily basis can become depressed and withdrawn.
My personal opinion on spanking is that I don’t totally agree with society’s outlook regarding spanking. As a parent I don’t believe that you should not be allowed to spank your child simply because society doesn’t approve. I feel that you should spank your child but only as a last resort when all other forms of discipline have not worked and only with an open hand and when you are not angry. I do believe that spanking can be effective when used appropriately.
I have on occasion spanked my children. With my older daughters, I first talk to my children and discuss their behavior and actions regarding the situation, I give them a chance to talk and explain themselves. I then ask questions regarding their behavior and give encouragement on how they can improve. If they continue to misbehave I will then use the removal tactics: (placing them in a corner for a time out, send them to bed early, lose TV privileges, items will be taken away from them for one week, and they will have to write sentences.)
If then after all of these forms of discipline fail and my children continue to push my buttons and disobey I will then give them a swat on their butt with my hand. I only swat them with my open hand and I keep my composer while I am spanking them. I also talk to them before their spanking and explain to them that I do not approve of their behavior and that they continued to misbehave and that is the reason why they are getting the spanking. Once my children has had a spanking they know that mom and dad mean business and their behavior improves. I think that the reason why spanking works with my children is because I do not spank them all the time and when they do get spanked it is because they know they did not improve their behavior when they had the opportunity to do so.
I have three daughters ages: 9, 7, & 3 years old. I use positive reinforcement differently with my two older daughters than that of my youngest. My oldest daughter is in third grade and my middle daughter is in first grade. I often use positive reinforcement strategies on them to praise them for a good job on their school work. When they bring home a graded paper that they received an 100% on they are very proud of the grade. I say to them that I'm proud of their good grade and I say encouraging words: Wow that is great, awesome, way to go, terrific, fantastic, right on, keep up the good work. I also give them …show more content…
a big hug and smile and put their paper on the refrigerator. By praising them and letting them know that I'm so happy that they did a good job on their assignment this will encourage them to do good on all of their assignments in school. They don’t always get all “A’s” or 100% on their papers but even if they get a low score I still praise them and tell them that I know on the next paper that they will be able to bring their grade up. I also reward them by giving them a special treat such as ice cream when they get good grades on their report card.
I also use positive reinforcement when I want them to help do chores around the house. I will give them a task to do and as they are completing the task I will let them know that I appreciate their help and that they are doing such a good job. I also keep a weekly chore sheet and when they have completed their chores for the day they get a sticker on the board and at the end of the week if they have completed all of their chores they get to choose a fun activity to do such as, go to the children’s museum, go to the movies, skating, or spend the night at grandma’s house.
For my youngest daughter she is three years old and she attends preschool but of course she doesn’t get graded on her assignments. For her, I use positive reinforcement to reassure that she will behave while she is at school. I tell her to be nice to the other children and listen to her teacher and follow directions. I say encouraging words to her also like act like a big girl today and play nice with your friends. I also praise her when I pick her up from preschool at the end of the day and give her a big hug and a high five and tell her that I'm so proud of her and that she is such a big girl. She is also in the process of becoming potty trained. I use positive reinforcement to encourage her to go to the toilet when she has to go potty. I praise her when she goes to the potty and clap and we sing a song, “Yeah, big girls so pee pee and poopy in the potty!” Also if she has a clean pull up all day without going potty on herself before bed time she gets a special treat. Negative Reinforcement
My daughters have a chore schedule that they complete daily afterschool. Majority of the time they do their chores without me having to nag at them to do so but, sometimes I do have to nag at them and tell them several times to do their chores. I will even stand over them and point out what I want them to do for example, pick up their clothes off the floor, pick up their toys and place them in the toy box, make their bed, put their book bags and school supplies away, do their homework, clean the cat’s litter box. When I nag at them about doing what they are suppose to do and hover over them insuring that they are completing their chores it annoys them, so as a results of me nagging and hovering over them to do their chores, they do what I asked and I quit nagging. So negative reinforcement is used because of unpleasant stimulus. When I nag at them they become annoyed so therefore they do their chores in order for me to quit nagging at them. Negative reinforcement increases the probability that my daughters behavior will change because they know that if they do not complete their chores I will nag at them until it is completed. So to avoid being nagged to do their chores they complete the task.
Another example of negative reinforcement is when my daughters complete their school assignments on time to avoid receiving a lower grade or getting a letter sent home that their assignments were not turned in on time and they did not receive a “homework hero” award. Sometimes depending on the assignment their teachers may take their recess time away if they have not completed an assignment in a timely manner. Negative reinforcement is used in this situation due to avoidance. My daughters do not want to get a lower grade on an assignment or miss recess so they avoid not missing recess or not receiving a letter sent home by completing their assignments when their teacher asks them to do so. They also know that if they conduct good behavior they will be rewarded but if they do not conduct good behavior disciplinary action will occur.
Punishment by Removal
Punishment by removal is the main form of discipline that I use on my children. When my children do not display appropriate behavior such as back talking or being disruptive and disrespectful. I will place them in the corner for a time out. I normally place them in time out for five to ten minutes depending on if they stand in the corner and do not throw a fit and do what I explained for them to do. If they do not comply and throw a fit while they are standing in time out they get an additional five minutes added on to their time for any outburst they do while in time out. After their time out session they are allowed to resume their activity, go play outside, finish watching tv, color in their coloring book, whatever they were doing before they got in trouble. They are removed from the activity they were doing because of negative behavior and given time to think about their actions and how to improve their behavior.
The other form of punishment by removal I use on my children is taking objects away from them. If after a time out session my children continue to misbehave I will take objects or privileges away from them. For example if my daughter is playing her Nintendo DS and she disobeys and I place her in time out and warn her while she is in time out that if she does not improve her behavior she will lose her Nintendo privilege for the rest of the day. Or if my daughter is watching tv and she disobeys and is placed in time out while she is in the corner I will explain that if she does not improve her behavior she will not be allowed to watch tv for the rest of the day. Whatever activity they are doing before they get placed in time out if after words if they continue to misbehave they will lose that object or privilege for the rest of the day.
If over the course of several days they continue to conduct unacceptable behavior they will lose all privileges for an entire week.
During the week that they are “in trouble” they are not allowed to watch tv, play outside, play their Nintendo, play with any of their toys, go to their grandma’s house, or participate in any fun activity. Their punishment for the week is that they are “grounded” to their bedroom and they have to write 50 sentences per day, the sentences consist of: “I will improve my behavior” or
“ I am sorry I disobeyed and I will listen and do what is expected” or anything that has to do with why they got in trouble.
Punishment by removal is effective because when my children misbehave and do not obey the rules they know that the consequence is something that is valuable and rewarding to them will be revoked until they can display good behavior. They do not have the freedom to do anything that they chose and they have to do something that they do not enjoy doing, which is sitting in their bedroom writing
sentences. Punishment by Application
Spanking children is a highly debated subject. Many people in our society see spanking as a form of child abuse because some parents may spank their child when they are angry or may use objects such as a wooden paddle, or belt. When you are angry or frustrated at your child, and if you spank your child with an object other than your hand, you can cause great harm both physically and emotionally to your child. Also if you constantly spank your child this can cause your child to become scared and afraid of you and can actually worsen their behavior. Children who are spanked on a daily basis can become depressed and withdrawn.
My personal opinion on spanking is that I don’t totally agree with society’s outlook regarding spanking. As a parent I don’t believe that you should not be allowed to spank your child simply because society doesn’t approve. I feel that you should spank your child but only as a last resort when all other forms of discipline have not worked and only with an open hand and when you are not angry. I do believe that spanking can be effective when used appropriately.
I have on occasion spanked my children. With my older daughters, I first talk to my children and discuss their behavior and actions regarding the situation, I give them a chance to talk and explain themselves. I then ask questions regarding their behavior and give encouragement on how they can improve. If they continue to misbehave I will then use the removal tactics: (placing them in a corner for a time out, send them to bed early, lose TV privileges, items will be taken away from them for one week, and they will have to write sentences.)
If then after all of these forms of discipline fail and my children continue to push my buttons and disobey I will then give them a swat on their butt with my hand. I only swat them with my open hand and I keep my composer while I am spanking them. I also talk to them before their spanking and explain to them that I do not approve of their behavior and that they continued to misbehave and that is the reason why they are getting the spanking. Once my children has had a spanking they know that mom and dad mean business and their behavior improves. I think that the reason why spanking works with my children is because I do not spank them all the time and when they do get spanked it is because they know they did not improve their behavior when they had the opportunity to do so.