Adolescent Relationships 10 Things I Hate About You
Over the course of adolescence, people interact with one another, forming relationships, whether they are healthy or unhealthy. There is a large correlation between the self-esteem of the two people, and the state of their relationship. The lower one’s self-esteem in a relationship is, the unhealthier their relationship is likely to be. Conversely, a healthy or unhealthy relationship can also raise or lower one’s self-esteem. In the 1999 film “10 Things I Hate About You,” the relationship between Kat Stratford and Patrick Verona is an example of how a healthy relationship can raise one’s self esteem, while the relationship between Bianca Stratford and Chastity Church shows how a low self-esteem can lead to an unhealthy relationship.
At the beginning of the film, Kat and Patrick have an unhealthy relationship. They are lying to each other and not communicating properly. Patrick is keeps secrets about why he is making advances on Kat, and they both don’t talk to each other about their problems whenever one in their relationship comes up. Kat has a low self-esteem, which is shown when she goes to the party and decides to get wasted on alcohol and perform because “that’s what everybody does at a party.” The largest problem in their relationship hits during the climax of the movie, in which Kat finds out that Patrick was actually being paid by Joey to woo her. Rather than ignoring this gigantic rock in their relationship, they use healthy techniques to deal with the problem. They talk to each other about how they feel, without any lies or with-holding of truth. By the end of the movie, their relationship has transformed from an unhealthy relationship filled with lies and blindness to a healthy one with open emotions and good communication. This relationship strengthened Kat’s self-esteem as well, because later in the film, she admits that she chose to disappoint people early on so that she wouldn’t have to live up to other people’s expectations, but realizes that that
At the beginning of the film, Kat and Patrick have an unhealthy relationship. They are lying to each other and not communicating properly. Patrick is keeps secrets about why he is making advances on Kat, and they both don’t talk to each other about their problems whenever one in their relationship comes up. Kat has a low self-esteem, which is shown when she goes to the party and decides to get wasted on alcohol and perform because “that’s what everybody does at a party.” The largest problem in their relationship hits during the climax of the movie, in which Kat finds out that Patrick was actually being paid by Joey to woo her. Rather than ignoring this gigantic rock in their relationship, they use healthy techniques to deal with the problem. They talk to each other about how they feel, without any lies or with-holding of truth. By the end of the movie, their relationship has transformed from an unhealthy relationship filled with lies and blindness to a healthy one with open emotions and good communication. This relationship strengthened Kat’s self-esteem as well, because later in the film, she admits that she chose to disappoint people early on so that she wouldn’t have to live up to other people’s expectations, but realizes that that