“My Problem with Her Anger” – Whose Responsibility?
“My problem with her anger” – Whose responsibility?
Most people go into the marriage in the hope that everything will go as planned, and that they will always get along, especially in the field of responsibilities division between both spouses. Eric Bartels, a feature writer for the Portland Tribune in Portland, Oregon, in his article “My Problem with Her Anger”, seems to encounter a huge trouble when his wife seems to never feel happy with anything he did.
Bartels explains what it feels like to be “on the receiving end of his wife’s anger”. He was trying to help his wife with the chores and with their two kids but it was just not good enough for her. After working many hours, along with those chores, he gets yelled at by his stressed out wife about the things that he did wrong and the things that he could have done right. Bartels ultimately feels that he does not deserve any of her anger because he has not done anything wrong making her the only one with faults and who is being the harsher one in the marriage.
While Hope Edelman’s husband in the previous “single parenthood” story was only bringing money to the home and that was it, Bartels, as far as I’m concerned, seems to be a thoroughly modern husband and father.
Although, as much as I found myself increasingly receptive to his persuasions and sympathetic to his plight, his views regarding gender equality are skewed.
While Bartels does a well job at being understanding of where his wife is coming from with all of her anger, such as “motherhood” and “professional success”, he personally does a poor job at taking any of the blame for the problems in the marriage. As the question 3 below the article says: “Bartels describes his failure to promptly clean the indoor grill, as well as a propensity for leaving dirty underweaar on the floor, as typical “domestic lapses” common to men”, Bartels admits that he made mistakes in the marriage daily life. Leaving his underwear on the floor is not a sign of a
Most people go into the marriage in the hope that everything will go as planned, and that they will always get along, especially in the field of responsibilities division between both spouses. Eric Bartels, a feature writer for the Portland Tribune in Portland, Oregon, in his article “My Problem with Her Anger”, seems to encounter a huge trouble when his wife seems to never feel happy with anything he did.
Bartels explains what it feels like to be “on the receiving end of his wife’s anger”. He was trying to help his wife with the chores and with their two kids but it was just not good enough for her. After working many hours, along with those chores, he gets yelled at by his stressed out wife about the things that he did wrong and the things that he could have done right. Bartels ultimately feels that he does not deserve any of her anger because he has not done anything wrong making her the only one with faults and who is being the harsher one in the marriage.
While Hope Edelman’s husband in the previous “single parenthood” story was only bringing money to the home and that was it, Bartels, as far as I’m concerned, seems to be a thoroughly modern husband and father.
Although, as much as I found myself increasingly receptive to his persuasions and sympathetic to his plight, his views regarding gender equality are skewed.
While Bartels does a well job at being understanding of where his wife is coming from with all of her anger, such as “motherhood” and “professional success”, he personally does a poor job at taking any of the blame for the problems in the marriage. As the question 3 below the article says: “Bartels describes his failure to promptly clean the indoor grill, as well as a propensity for leaving dirty underweaar on the floor, as typical “domestic lapses” common to men”, Bartels admits that he made mistakes in the marriage daily life. Leaving his underwear on the floor is not a sign of a