Re-Evaluating Your Stubornness

A team is defined by the method in which it functions, a disfunctional team can not accomplish a goal or will take more valuable time. Being able to be consisderate of others, and how they feel towards a subject is important to understand. When I am able to understand others, I can be direct, quick and productive. I try using operant conditioning in any group I partipicate, after learning of the method. It is different than using it with children, but I try to imagine how to use it with adults. When I notice someone partipicating, expressign their thoughts, I try to achwoldge their efforts. After awhile the teammate now believes the behavior is wanted and keeps on partificating. While being considerate, and encouraging I can set the tone for
the team.

Everyone has room to improve, of which I have plenty. I am very direct, when it comes to getting a goal accomplished. When a project is due on friday, I need it done by monday and I do not make it a secret. I have realised this trait in the project in which we have to teach others by an activity at the end of the semester. My group is wonderful, focused indivudals who have their own expertise. However, I try to make a timeline which will have us finished by the end of november. I can develop my patience by self-relftion, and realising the value of making connections in a group. The eagle in "Behavioral-Style Evaluation" is highly impatient, which I can relate too.

Some negative traits are inherited, I feel my stubornness is one of those unforunate incidences.
Participating in the "Re-Evaluating your can'ts" inventory, I attained a better understanding of my ablilty of not being able to let things go. I do not seek out opportunities to speak to my father, due to our history. However, doing the inventory showed me the error of my ways, how I am too stubborn. Even in teams, in which there might be multiple eagles in the sky, I do not want to take a back seat. I am working on this currently, by being in a group with Kamelot and Rihannon. They both are leaders, with strong personalities, and have great ideas which I greatly appreciate. I am understanding that sometimes, letting others take the lead is not bad
idea.

When a person has a high level of self esteem and self worth it is hard to achknowledge critiscm. Activities in class have allowed me to view myself in a different light, one of which was " Who Do You Think You Are?". I detected in the elements of my self-concept how confidence is greatly important to me. This made me insterested how this might be a skill I need to develop. When confidence being so valuable to me, in the past, I must have ignored critisim. I am trying to accomadate this lacking feature in my ablilty, by being more understanding of others. When I am able to understand and use critisum in a positive manner, I can improve myself as a whole.

Who has time to smell the roses, as an eagle according to "Behavioral-Style Evaluation", I couldn't agree more with this statement. I need to get work accomplished and I am willing to put my efforts without realising the milestones along the way. In a group I will push the agenda and not worry about anything else. I have realised this by working in a group, in class 1100. When we would have time before lunch to toil away at our project, I would forget to eat. The others in the group would keep reminding me to eat, but I chose to ignore their caring offer and focus on the task.

I have an innate tedency to verbalize my inner thoughts without considering the envirnoment. I am an opinion giver as written in " Group/Organization Roles", I communicate how I feel, as I am feeling. In class, I love to give my opinions and debate ideas from others. When the group which presented the pyschodymanic prespective in class, I agrued that ID, and superego are both uncounicious. While the group rationalized ID is the only part of the psyche that is uncounious. I chose to keep agruing my point to exhustion, while being fully aware of my actions. I have the utmost confidence in myself and tend to not give to others. I need to become more sensitve to the opinions of others and respect them as well.

I am catergoized as eagle, from the " Behavioral-style Evaluation", and proud of the fact.
I have been cursed with the gift of gab, I love to talk to others. In groups at moments, I gravitate towards been the hood ormanent according to " Group Members as Car Parts". I have confidence in my cognitive abliiltes and the interpersonal skills I possess. When a task seems it could be easily accomplished, I tend to steer the conversation offtopic while being the steering wheel. I am indeed talkative, and realize the fact that others might not find the task as easy as I do. I also converse to extraordinary amount when I do not find a task easy, in order to gather information from others. It is a dual edged sword, but I am working on making the blade
dull.

Know-it-alls, no one appreciates them, even when a person themselves are guilty of being in the catergory. I admit in large or small groups I am the wise guy. This has evloved from me always wanting to make others laugh and be the class clown. If I can improve this part of my communication ability, I will solve multiple issues. These issues include talkitnvess, and senisvity which I discuseed earlier in this paper. The worksheet from " Inviation to insight" has assisted me greatly by setting a step orentied timeline. I need to accept when to back down and let others contritube. This will allow me to see another viewpoint and show others I am protizing the team over my own agenda. I have a strong inner voice, which needs to be silenced at moments in order to achieve this goal. I need to listen to others and focus on their opinion. These esstintel steps will have me well on my way to stop being a smart aleck.

Body language of yourself, and others can give copious amounts of information. I need to be more aware of body language of myself, and be aware of what I am speaking. This goal will help me elimainte some of my weaknesees such as impatience, and stubbornness. The steps I need to take according to the plan, I schemed of in " Invitation to Insight" worksheet is as follows. Mediation, and reflecting on the conversations I particitpated in throuhgtout the day. This will assist me by allowing to visulaize my miscomings amd how to correct them. I need to relfect on the person I am, and the choices I am making which will shape the future. How I interact in a team, will affect how others relate to me. If I am more aware of my choices and actions I can control how my future is shaped to some extent.

Relfection causes change, it certainly has in this instance. I am feeling after completing this paper I am a better individaul. In relation to my communication skills, I have a superior view of my strengths and weaknesses.I display great aptitude in guidance, policy implenation, listening, persevernance, analysis, imagination and being considerate. The weaknesses I should take into consideation are my impatience, stubbornness, acceptance of critisim, workaholism, sensitivity, and talkativeness. I The goals which I will meet include stop being a wiseacre, and being more compenent in awareness.